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Meet Darlene Lancer, LMFT of Santa Monica

Today we’d like to introduce you to Darlene Lancer.

So, before we jump into specific questions about the business, why don’t you give us some details about you and your story.
I was previously an entertainment attorney for many years. I embarked on an inner journey of transformation that led to my departure from my profession. I realized that I’d spent far too long feeling out of place as an attorney, trying every which way to make it work before trusting my feelings, which had long been buried. I’d always wanted to be a therapist, starting when I was 12 and read Freud’s “Interpretation of Dreams.” So in 1987, I returned to graduate school at Antioch University and became a marriage and family therapist. I immediately loved it and felt like I was taking “heart vitamins.” In the past, I’d published articles as an attorney and continued to do so as a therapist. With the advent of the Internet, I began a monthly blog on my website.

John Wiley & Sons Publishers expressed interest in my expertise and writing and asked me to write “Codependency for Dummies,” which was published in 2012 (followed by a 2015 second edition).

Subsequently, Hazelden Foundation asked me to write “Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You,” which was published in 2014. In addition, I self-published seven eBooks available on my website and online booksellers, as well as three webinars.

Looking back, I can see an unfolding pattern that has led to my current life of writing, helping, and educating people all over the world. I hadn’t realized the magnitude of what was in store when over 20 years ago, I dreamt that I would share with others what I’d learned in my own journey of self-reclamation.

Has it been a smooth road?
It was difficult leaving a successful career as a lawyer, especially during a period when I couldn’t identify what I wanted to do next. Yet knew I couldn’t continue practicing law. Eventually, I was drawn to my original calling – to help people as a therapist and author.

So let’s switch gears a bit and go into the Darlene Lancer, LMFT story. Tell us more about the business.
In my private practice that focuses on self-development, codependency, and relationships, I see individuals and couples and also coach people by phone outside the greater L.A area and internationally. Over the course of 30 years, I’ve helped men and women recover from codependency and trauma. I draw on my ability as an emotional intuitive and employ a variety of techniques and modalities, including psychoanalytic and cognitive-behavioral approaches. Clients become effective communicators with more autonomy and self-esteem. They experience greater well-being, professional success, and satisfaction in their relationships and personal lives. Couples learn to resolve problems, improve communication, and build trust and greater intimacy.

On my website, visitors can find a wealth of information, including “14 Tips for Letting Go,” and many free reports, such as a narcissist checklist and tips for dealing with manipulators and breakups. I often speak to the media and at professional conferences. Many talks can be found on my website or on,, or YouTube. People can also find my daily posts in social media.

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  1. Kim Jordan

    October 22, 2017 at 00:59

    Your work is truly inspirational and empowering and I have truly enjoyed reading your articles, journals and have ordered some of your books as well.

    I too left a high paying career as a software sales executive to pursue my life long calling of being a therapist. I love the work…

    Thank you again for your wonderful work which I have so enjoyed reading and pass on to all my clients now.
    Thank You!

    • Darlene Lancer, LMFT

      October 23, 2017 at 07:32

      Thanks Kim, and hurray for you. It feels so much better being aligned with what we’re meant to do!

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