Today we’d like to introduce you to Emily Wilcox.
Emily, please share your story with us. How did you get to where you are today?
People often ask me how I became an author and an expert on commitment phobia and love addiction. The truth is, it was entirely unexpected. In my teens and twenties, I was a wild child looking for love in all the wrong places. I was into anything that would give me a feeling of love, peace and acceptance. At the time, I truly believed those things were men, booze and rock n’ roll. It wasn’t until my 29th birthday did I discover I was heading down an empty tunnel, traveling even deeper into the abyss. I started to take courses, workshops and sought advice from some of our greatest spiritual leaders like Shakti Gawain, Debbie Ford and Marianne Williamson. After years of research and personal transformation, I was finally poised to share my findings for love addicts everywhere.
I wanted my book, The Commitment Phobe, to be an honest, thought-provoking and enlightening book on relationships for a generation where we learned that self worth is elusive and much easier found in the love we can get from men. Beyond smut and sanctimony, I wanted women to be unafraid to challenge their emotional pasts and sexual correctness. I challenge my readers to go beyond the common labels and find themselves.
The Commitment Phobe was written to explain who this mysterious man is, why he has issues with intimacy and commitment and how to break the cycle of the push/pull relationship and create lasting love.
The modern ideology of love is compelling. Never have we been so scared at the idea of being alone, suffering and single. Never have we expected more from our intimate relationships and never has we tolerated more emotional abuse in the name of love. Under the weight of so many expectations, the pressures of our culture make it hard to accept ourselves, with or without a man.
I learn daily how to master the art of relationships. The great thing about being an expert in the field of love addiction and commitment phobia is that I don’t have to worry about age-ism and boredom. It’s not like keeping up with technology: as long as my brain works, I can practice till I drop!
We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
Are there such things as smooth roads?! Believing in my theories on commitment phobia and knowing that I need to share this information gives me purpose. Writing a book about love addiction has been my dream for a long time. I struggled as a love addict myself for many years and spent much time in unhappy, unhealthy relationships. Writing this book was both cathartic and healing. The feedback has been overwhelming and I feel grateful that I get to spend my career helping other women turn their lives around, too. Let your history guide you.
Tell us more about your work.
I am a relationship coach and author specializing in love addiction and commitment phobia. The Commitment Phobe is unlike any other book about men who can’t commit. It’s also about the love addict and how we keep the push/pull cycle going. I come from first-hand experience and not what I’ve read in school. This was definitely an on-the-field study of relationships. I spent years collecting data to support my findings.
The Commitment Phobe reveals how to stop attracting men who can’t commit and start creating lasting love. It is an empowering look into ourselves, our relationships and the men who keep us guessing. Available in book stores February 6, 2020.
Has luck played a meaningful role in your life and business?
Ha! Well, certainly my bad luck somehow created tons of good luck! My history and my past were painful and traumatizing. But as luck would have it, when I turned my life around, I was able to use those experiences to help other women. Everything and everyone has a purpose. Our lives are not in vain. We have to remember that when things feel like bad luck, the universe is always conspiring for our best interest and outcome. Good luck is always around the corner if we keep on the path with good intentions.
- Website: www.emilywilcox.net
- Email: email@example.com
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/askemilywilcox
- Other: The Commitment Phobe https://www.amazon.com/dp/