We recently had the chance to connect with Nastya Valentine and have shared our conversation below.
Nastya, a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: What do the first 90 minutes of your day look like?
Back to sleep 🙂
I wake up at 5am and go back to bed until 8:30, when I rise to make a coffee and eat potato chips. I take the first morning hit of the vape. I watch TV in bed for 4-5hrs and cuddle with my cats. I visit my Cyberhorny project and lament what to post. Then I swim in the pool. What happens in the course of the day is varied but I try to be back in bed at 9 or 10pm. I prefer the day time because the night is long, hard, and full of dreamin’.
The majority of my work is done in dreams while sleeping. I have extremely vivid cinematic dreams, and record them in various diaries. (Cyberhorny Dream Diaries is out now). Rest is not only a deeply transformative recuperative process, it is also my creative praxis. I like to do as little as possible in my waking life to prepare for the raging battles of the subconscious revealed by sleep. My physical body has been ravaged by chronic illness, pain, and fatigue, so I plan my activities strategically for my energy level and social bandwidth. If you are visited by a black cube tomorrow night in your dreams, that was me.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m Nastya Valentine and for the past many years I’ve built a varied multidisciplinary art practice: films, music, event curation, content creating, writing, chilling… everything inspires me and everything is art. I believe that branding comes naturally and doesn’t have to be contrived or formulaic. I tend to chronicle years by project, a movie year or an album year or a book year. The past few years have been more literary and writing-focused. I write about my experience of becoming a professional egirl during the pandemic, making conceptual art out of 30 stuffed seals, dealing with the reality underneath this often misunderstood field and the crosshairs of art and fantasy. Becoming a self-sniper? In this economy you pretty much have to.
✨ Cyberhorny: Navigating A Sexual Dystopia ✨ is out now. Self-published via Cyberhorny, available on amazon.com. Part memoir, part cultural psychoanalysis of our oversaturated digital landscape from the lens of someone who’s been deep in it.
🦭 Cyberhorny Dream Diaries 🦭 is out now. A companion piece to Cyberhorny, this glossy art book features my dreams interpreted by collaborator and psychoanalyst Evan Dunn.
💕 Ultimate Fantasy 💕 is coming out fall 2025 via Dream Boy Book Club. It is an anthology of three interweaving stories of erotica meditating on the philosophy of girlhood, fidelity, and pain through the lens of: a tradwife, a boss girl, and a cybernetic sexbot.
Art rarely strays far from life; I am semi-retired from being in the top 1% of OF creators to fulfill my dream of being a SAHM and stay at home wife. Husbands to the front. If any generous men in LA with the means and desire to provide for a quirked up stay at home trophy wife want to hit me up don’t be shy ;)))
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What part of you has served its purpose and must now be released?
No more hustle and grind culture. A true tradwife isn’t gonna be posting on tiktoks for marketing brand deals, she’s going to be off the grid of online hustle life, tending to her family in private. That is my goal: to get offline, have a garden and herd cats.
Was there ever a time you almost gave up?
In 2024 I played a lot of Skyrim on Twitch and I didn’t backup my save files for 8 months and in 2025 one of my battles my companion J’Zargo was killed by a troll and foolish me, not having hard saved, had to go back to my last file without my husband and son but at least even back in the previous file I still had J’Zargo. I was on the precipice of giving up the game completely but my intuition told me this next playthrough would be good, even better than the last one. Truly, I ran into the travelling Khajiit caravan and found Kharjo, which was indeed fortuitous. This experience taught me that pain is a door and you can start over with a refreshed perspective even after a massive F.
Talking about real life pain and trauma is boring and unsettling, but if you simply must know my tea drama and gossip read my books 🙂
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. Is the public version of you the real you?
Cyberhorny: Navigating A Sexual Dystopia dissects this in depth. Bottom line: the public Nastya is so much the real me that authenticity rounds the corner into artifice and then back again into reality. But not really 😉
Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. Have you ever gotten what you wanted, and found it did not satisfy you?
In my experience when your hobby becomes your work and livelihood, it’s not good. You lose the sense of joy and purity; how foul and perverted it is that something pure like art is these days compressed and corrupted into a social media commodity. It’s also harder to sustain the more you do it. Commodifying yourself weighs on the soul and burnout is real.
The problem with manifesting is you do indeed get what you want.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://cyber-horny.com
- Instagram: nastyavalentine
- Youtube: nastyavalentine
- Other: Twitch: nastya_valentine
Cyberhorny Book: https://a.co/d/8foxvfu
Image Credits
Weirdo Music Forever, Pam Schaffer, Sam Braslow
