Inspiring Conversations with Rory Adele of Rory Adele Coaching

Today we’d like to introduce you to Rory Adele.

Hi Rory, so excited to have you on the platform. So before we get into questions about your work-life, maybe you can bring our readers up to speed on your story and how you got to where you are today?
For a long time, I was the woman who kept losing herself in relationships. Not dramatically losing myself, but more subtly. On the outside, I was successful, put-together, self-aware. But in love, I kept becoming a slightly edited version of myself. Quieter about what I knew, or more accommodating than I actually wanted to be. I was unconsciously working so hard to be chosen that I stopped checking whether I was even choosing well.

I knew something was off, but I just couldn’t act on what I knew.

When I finally found the work that helped me stay anchored in myself, everything shifted. Not just my dating life, but the way I made decisions, and the way I trusted myself. I became someone who could hear her own knowing and actually act on it.

That’s when I realized this was the work I was here to do, because I know exactly what it costs a woman to keep overriding herself, and I know what becomes possible when she finally stops.

Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way. Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
It’s definitely been a journey, a heroine’s journey, as I like to call it.

The honest answer is that my biggest struggle was the same one my clients come to me with. I kept overriding my own knowing. I could feel I was being called toward coaching for years, and I kept talking myself out of it. I was waiting for it to make more logical sense, and for someone to give me permission. My inner knowing only got louder and louder, and I finally decided to listen.

The irony is not lost on me. I now help women close the gap between what they know and what they actually do. That gap was exactly where I lived for longer than I’d like to admit in building this business.

What finally shifted it was doing the deeper work myself and surrendering control of what it needed to look like. That surrender changed everything.

Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your business?
I’m a self-trust and inner knowing coach. I work primarily with women around dating, and relationships, but not in the way most people imagine. I’m not teaching dating strategies or how to attract someone. I’m working with women on a deeper level of trusting themselves and their inner voice of wisdom. I have found that many women already hear their inner knowing clearly… and talk themselves out of it anyway. They see the red flags or feel something’s off, but still feel stuck. They may know they want to quit that job or leave a relationship, yet they stay anyway, or they shut down, or they manage the situation instead of trusting themselves. That’s exactly where my work lives.

What sets me apart is the depth of the method I use, called The Individuated Heart Method. I’m trained in Jungian depth psychology and somatic embodiment, which means we work at the unconscious level and the nervous system level simultaneously. What women discover is that what starts as dating work becomes a compass for their entire life, their career, family, and every decision they make.

I work with women 1:1, but also love to host in-person events and retreats, as well as online group programs.

I’m also rooted in community through a monthly walking club in San Diego called The Anchored Women’s Walk. As an LA native, bringing that kind of in-person connection back here is something I’m excited about.

If you had to, what characteristic of yours would you give the most credit to?
Honesty and faith..

Honesty, because the work I do requires me to go to the root of things rather than staying at the surface. With my clients and with myself. It would be easier to offer a formula, but the real work lives somewhere deeper than that. Getting there requires a willingness to be truthful about what’s actually going on, even when it’s uncomfortable.

And faith, because so much of this path has asked me to trust what I couldn’t yet prove. To act on my knowing before I had external confirmation it was right. Which is, not coincidentally, exactly what I help women learn to do.

Between those two things, the honesty to see clearly and the faith to act anyway, everything else has followed.

Contact Info:

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/rory.adele
• Other: https://intuitionquiz.netlify.app/

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Leresa Renee