Today we’d like to introduce you to Carly Freeman.
Hi Carly, we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today?
The story of how I got off the damn timeline & started living my life for me.
Whether it’s conscious on subconsciously–we are imprinted on from a young age with some type of “jargin” of “how life should look”. Leaving me to believe that the external items would fulfill and makes me happy.
How choosing to stop checking the boxes saved my life.
I went to school in Chico, CA–3,000+ miles away from the small town I grew up in Western NY- can you say risk taker much?
I was fortunate enough in college to find my bubble with endless amounts of friends & support & this naive-ness that it would always be this way.
I no longer had the “I am in college” mask to hide behind. You graduate college– then the timeline starts– get the job–get the relationship — get the house–have the kids– all the things.
BOOM that’s your quintessential ticket of success & happiness.
**spoiler I checked all of the above & where I landed was 30 pounds heavier, drinking way more, and a fiance that ended our engagement five months away from walking down the aisle.
Slipping into the societal timeline wasn’t hard– it’s easy to get lost in the sea of whatever else is doing wave.
I arrived home from Europe & I instantly got into a relationship- landed a sales job, lived a minute away from my family… never once asking myself if that was what I wanted.
I was in a seven-year relationship with a man that was better roommate than a romantic partner…I never even asked myself if we were compatible! Simply put–he fit in the box to be checked. The conditioning that a lot of women succumb to of– who do I need to be for someone to like me!
The breakup was the blessing I didn’t know I needeed.. I was drowning.
I got a 2nd chance at life— At the end of 2017 I was five months away from getting married. My partner at the time came home & said we needed to talk. Then proceed to say we couldn’t get married —he couldn’t make me happy.
For me I had two options– let’s not forget I was in a small town where the breakup was on blast for all to witness.
My options-
Option 1: I could go victim route, blame game—fuel the drama of why me type scenario…
or
Option 2–I could go inward find my responsibility & take this moment to figure out how I ended up here in the first place…
I chose option 2..believe me, there was a part of me that wanted to choose option 1 but something deep down was so relieved that this all had happened.
My choice to go inward allowed me to find GRACE & so much healing. It wasn’t an easy road but I knew getting grounded & finding myself was the only option.
It was hard to move back in with my parents- I felt so lost… I had no idea what my next move was going to be. It wasn’t until later that year I sold the wedding dress I had planned on getting married in. I used this money & I invested in myself—I invested in a Tony Robbins-Unleash the Power Within.
An event with 11,000 of my closest friends…. kidding I didn’t know a soul that attended. This was my introduction into thr Personal Development. I had no idea what the hell I was doing & I knew I was made for more.
I believe the most important relationship I’ll ever be in is with MYSELF.
At this same time—I took notice of one of my college friends Valerie Adams ..she seemed to be on a similar journey. I was so inspired and still am very inspired by her–I reached out & was like I want what you have.
“I literally said what is the Kool Aide… I want it!”
What I realize now four years later is how much I wanted to be a part of a community of like-minded humans…
I hired Val as my mindset coach, and we worked together on unpacking my limiting beliefs, trauma around worthiness, playing small, etc.
I signed up for an emotional intelligence program and went all in on myself in a way that I had never committed to something before.
I knew there had to be more…I knew I couldn’t just have these unsettling feelings of “this is just how it is”.. waiting year after year with my fingers crossed that something would change.
It takes the a large amount of courage to face yourself in the mirror & ask yourself what is it that you actually want… & then do something about it.
I know that when I am living in JOY & BEing my most authentic self anything is possible… I believe we are all here for a reason & to me that reason is for all of us to tap into the magic that is us. That’s our gift to the world– our super power!
I moved 2 years ago to San Diego away form my family & friends in Western NY. I put myself first & took a chance on myself–
I also started dating (never really had ever before done) & got crystal clear on the desires I wanred in a romantic relationship. Once you are clear it’s easier to clear out what doesn’t feel good to allow what does feel good to come in.
I am now engaged to my Fiancé James– my 10/10 relationship/partner! This all happened because I got crystal clear on whta I wanted for myself & what that could look/feel like in a relationship with someone else.
This all happened because I took ownership of my life, unpacked my baggage & got the support to become emotionally available to me again.
Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way. Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
It has been a ride as I feel it’s supposed to be — you can’t appreciate the highs if you haven’t felt the lows & vice versa.
I have experienced tragic death in my family..& currently still grieving the loss of my college best friend to Cancer. Greif and stillness have been big teachers for me.. The real flex is getting still long enough to allow the answes to come from within you.
We’ve been impressed with Carly Freeman Coaching, but for folks who might not be as familiar, what can you share with them about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I am a mindset coach–
It is absolute magic when we truly come HOME to yourselves. I support humans getting off the damn societal timeline–as a coach we create a vision for that is yours!
So much magic happens when we learn how to trust ourselves & get clear on what we want out of life because this isn’t a dress rehearsal!
Alright so before we go can you talk to us a bit about how people can work with you, collaborate with you or support you?
I have an application link that is in my bio on my Instagram platform. Which is where I play & connect mostly– @iamcarlyfreeman
Contact Info:
- Email: carlyfreemancoaching@gmail.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlyfreeman/
Image Credits:
@meganbriggsphotography
