Today we’d like to introduce you to Rachel Thomasian and Tina Setteducate.
Hi Rachel and Tina, thanks for sharing your story with us. To start, maybe you can tell our readers some of your backstory.
I (Rachel Thomasian) have been a therapist in private practice since 2009, specializing in working with individuals and couples on relationship concerns. In 2015, Valentina Setteducate became my intern and trained in my practice. She was licensed in 2019 and we continued our work together in helping people build better relationships. We noticed a void when it came to break up resources. For most topics, we can point our clients in the right direction in terms of books or experts, but what we noticed was a lack of trustworthy, professional breakup information to help people heal. In fact, we purchased all the top-selling books on the topic on Amazon and found they were either blank workbooks or full or harsh one-size-fits-all advice. Since we have a combined 15 years working with people dealing with breakups, we have a unique vantage point of understanding the importance of what helps people not just survive but thrive through the end of a relationship.
We sat down and pulled research and literature on relationships, breakups, self-care, attachment – basically everything and anything we thought would be helpful for someone struggling from the feelings that come with a breakup. After a year of meetings, writing and editing we had created a guided workbook called BreakUp & BreakOut. The book provides education around healing from a breakup and has guided exercises to help process thoughts and emotions after a breakup. Because we know about the importance of community when going through healing, we also wanted to create an online space where we could support anyone experiencing a breakup. This is where our Instagram page came to life, @breakupandout provides a respite from the usual clutter of the highlight reel of social media which can be especially hurtful when you’ve just lost a significant relationship in your life. Here we offer affirmations, inspiring information, quotes from the book and other press we contribute to, as well as feel good support.
Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?
I think with the nature of our work, it felt very natural to take the course of writing this book. Things fell into place pretty flawlessly with finding an editor and designer for our book that were good fits for us. Everything was going really smoothly until covid hit at the beginning of March with our book release date a couple of weeks away. We had to work with not being able to offer our book to colleagues and clients in person as well as significant delays in production and shipment. Those delays for the most part have been worked out and we do feel like with a pandemic, our book is more timely than ever in helping people heal.
As you know, we’re big fans of BreakUp & BreakOut. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about the brand?
My practice is called Playa Vista Counseling and I specialize in working with relationships, out of this work came the book BreakUp & BreakOut that I wrote with my colleague Valentina Setteducate. We’re most proud of creating a book that is a compliment for therapy for anyone going through a difficult relationship, a current breakup, or a breakup in the past that they are still feeling some distress from. It was very exciting to weave in evidence-based exercises and create a tangible product that could help people well beyond our reach that still stayed true and reflective of our work with clients we see in person.
Are there any apps, books, podcasts, blogs or other resources you think our readers should check out?
We use Instagram to promote positive breakup information, we also have created a blog on our website to share tips and information.
- Book on Amazon $24.95
- Kindle $9.99
- Email: email@example.com
- Website: thebreakupbook.com
- Instagram: breakupandout
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/breakupandout
Photos by Katie Abbott