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Meet Rubi Skilton of Ladies Code: Flaunt Your Flaws in Hollywood

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Today we’d like to introduce you to Rubi Skilton.

Rubi, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
Well, let’s go back to 1996. My name is Rubi. I was born in Laredo, TX and was born with a limb difference. This can mean different things depending on the person; for me, it means I was born with half of my left arm and have a total of 7 fingers. Growing up I had a pretty normal childhood, dad was (kinda) in the picture and my mom well, she’s my greatest support system and I owe her my life, literally. I practiced ballet, did gymnastics for a few years, played basketball, tennis, soccer, took a few painting classes and I guess, I was just lucky to be able to do and try all these different things that I wanted to. Even though I had a physical difference, my mom never let me feel like I was disabled. If I wanted something, she’d let me try, fail, succeed and figure it out. This would come to be one of the greatest traits she taught me.

I was fortunate enough to never experience bullying, at least not to my face. I enjoyed life and it was all fun until middle school. The awkward age, friends that I’ve had split into cliques, some started dating, others loosing the “baby fat” but not me. This was the first time I started really noticing and becoming aware of my difference. It was obvious and even though I wasn’t made fun of, I started to really dislike my body.

All this happened so subconsciously that it wasn’t until I started my self-development journey a little over a year ago that I realized I was ashamed of my story. I remember it was in middle school that the sweater came on and it would stay on until a few months ago. I literally wouldn’t leave my house without a sweater or long sleeve, something that would cover my arm, regardless of the weather. Being in Texas that meant 100+ degrees. I had convinced myself that, it was my style and I enjoyed it. See, that’s the thing with body image, a dislike can happen so subconsciously that you don’t even realize you hate your body. During this time I also decided, “girls are mean and I hate hanging out with them” along side “I don’t care what people think, F everything”. Good thing I had music.

I started songwriting when I was 7, I loved the idea of telling stories in a creative way that could inspire people. I kept songwriting all through middle & high school. My senior year I put a music festival together in my hometown for a nonprofit I volunteered at and started managing some local artists. I knew I had to do this as a career. So, at 18 I made the big move from Texas to Los Angeles. Alone, in a new city but I knew it’s where I had to be. Oh, but guess what? The sweaters were still on… in sunny California. I kept writing and networking and was able to work with a couple of my favorite artists, my dreams where about to come true! The universe, however, had other plans. These collaborations fell through and didn’t see past the studio. Thinking back on it, I cringe at how socially awkward I was all because of my limb difference and weight. I hated it. I hated being in photos, I hated taking up space. I would look in the mirror and cry, pointing out every single flaw I had.

I started dating my best friend (still together) and I was finally like, YES THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED! Wrong, if you’re not happy with yourself no third party can bring you that happiness. It was in January of 2018 that I looked at a photo from my birthday, a full body photo, and realized all the damage I had done to myself, subconsciously, that it started showing in my physical. I was over 200lbs and being 5 foot 1, that is extremely unhealthy. I struggled with my weight most of my life. Jumping from diet to diet, trying weight loss shakes and pills. It wasn’t until this photo that I realized, I was killing myself and HAD to change. So that’s when my journey started. I hired a trainer and jumped head first into the self-development podcast world. I went to my first live event and started meeting incredible, like-minded women, that were there to inspire and support. This shook my world, everything I had known was wrong. I started putting in the work, the tears, the sweat, and did I mention the tears? There was plenty of those. But I learned that my story mattered. My difference is what will inspire. I ended up launching a blog, Ladies Code Blog, in December. I started talking more openly about my limb difference and the sweaters finally came off. I now run the blog alongside my podcast, Flaunt Your Flaws.

I learned to embrace my story and love myself. It is now my mission to mentor females that might be in a similar position. I help them get to the core of their issues and work backwards to help them design their dream life through finding their confidence and growing their self-love.

Has it been a smooth road?
Not at all. I think the biggest struggle I had was realizing that everything I had told myself was not true. Having to unlearn old habits that have been passed through generations, cutting the cycle.

We’d love to hear more about your business.
Ladies Code: Flaunt Your Flaws is first off a community. It is a community to support and inspire you through your own journey. I am a self-love & confidence coach, what sets me apart from other coaches out there is I have a limb difference. I could’ve easily chosen to hide it but I use my story to inspire clients and show them, it CAN be done regardless of your own personal difference. I focus on giving my clients the tools they need to start designing their dream life and making it a reality. However, unlike other coaches, I work on their self-image and we work together from the inside out.

Is our city a good place to do what you do?
I think the coaching business can be done from wherever. LA, I think is an unusual place to do a self-love & confidence as so many people here are “all about the physical looks” but, I do think it’s a reason that it’s the perfect location for a service like mine.

Pricing:

  • Flaunt Your Flaws 12 Weeks Group Coaching ($555)
  • Flaunt Your Flaws 12 Weeks Group Coaching VIP ($1200)
  • 1:1 Coaching (Message for more info)
  • Flaunt Your Flaws T-Shirt ($30)

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Image Credit:
KJ Photography (Kyle Imhof)
Juany Velazquez

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