Is the public version of you the real you?

We all think we’re being real—whether in public or in private—but the deeper challenge is questioning whether we truly know our real selves at all. In any case, even when we know ourselves we might face various pressures that push us to fit in or not cause trouble – so even the most well-intentioned person might struggle to always be 100% real in public. Sometimes the simplest questions are actually the most complex. Thankfully, we have some wonderful members of the community who offered to share their thoughts on this challenging question.

Claire Mulvaney

She tries to be, but I wear many faces depending on who I’m talking to. Musician Claire cares about making great art, CEO Claire cares about her users, and day-to-day Claire cares about her interpersonal relationships. I think they are all authentic versions of myself. Read more>>

Jessica Qian

I would say the public version of me is real — but it’s not the whole story. I’m the same person in my work and in my private life: intuitive, emotional, curious, and always paying attention to people and energy. That part is very authentic. But like anyone, I have layers that don’t always show. Read more>>

Moses Lopez

A resounding yes. From a young age my parents thought me that to truly live a life free from the burdens of societal expectations or those passed down whether the be to cultural or upbringing, you must learn to love yourself for who you are and be the best version of yourself. It was a powerful lesson that has shaped who I am today. Read more>>

Alexandria Vargas

I try to show up as my real self. I don’t believe in acting or pretending for the sake of being liked. I’ve learned that not everyone will connect with me and that’s ok. Read more>>