We recently had the chance to connect with Lily Malm and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Lily, thank you for taking the time to reflect back on your journey with us. I think our readers are in for a real treat. There is so much we can all learn from each other and so thank you again for opening up with us. Let’s get into it: When was the last time you felt true joy?
This weekend. I spent it exploring – and getting lost in – stories with one of my writing partners. Storytelling, whether it is screenwriting or any other art form, can be incredibly liberating. I think that’s why people are so drawn to films and fiction; we get to live out a heightened part of ourselves through the characters that, in real life, we may never have the courage to surrender ourselves to or even admit that we desire. It’s a vicarious experience.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is Lily Malm and I am a Swedish-born, although a bit Californianized, screenwriter and AFI Fellow. I came to the states on my own as a first generation immigrant almost seven years ago and have since studied the craft of screenwriting at two different film schools, worked in post-production, talent- and literary management and script consulting. I’ve barely had a life outside of it, save for a few friendships and gym classes. Over the years that I’ve lived here, I’ve explored stories in various formats and genres but tend to naturally gravitate towards female-led, lesbian dramas and feminist science-fiction. I recently discovered a joy for producing as I’ve been working on getting my own shorts made, something I would love to explore further to be able to produce my own features one day.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What part of you has served its purpose and must now be released?
The people pleaser. I can’t do it anymore. It was always on me to unlearn the need to put myself last, thinking that’s where I ranked in the grand scheme of things, but it took me a long time to catch up to that realization. I think when we’re young, when we’re adapting to the world around us, we very easily shrink ourselves out of fear of not fitting in, most of which stems from some form of shame or indoctrination. But one thing that screenwriting in particular has taught me is that passive, stagnant, and reactive characters are boring as h*ll to watch. Stories come out of characters who make bold, proactive decisions, flawed or not. People turn to films, to art, to be inspired to live a higher life. People pleasing is just another way of playing it safe, but that survival bullsh*t has served its purpose.
When did you stop hiding your pain and start using it as power?
About two years ago, I was dared to try a version of “method” writing and wound up diagnosed with PTSD. It was both confusing and liberating, and I have my concerns for artists who rely on that technique. Actors, especially, but the same goes for writers. Yet I would be lying if I said it isn’t powerful. It was also around that time that I met one of my writing partners. She’s one of my biggest inspirations and a really genuine friend. When we sit down and write together, she challenges me to get real and turn my pain into power. She’s an alchemist.
Next, maybe we can discuss some of your foundational philosophies and views? What are the biggest lies your industry tells itself?
That image is everything. I disagree. The ability to collaborate effectively and respectfully is more important than accolades, and it is a lesson all of us need to re-teach ourselves, sometimes even on a daily basis. The longer I work in the film industry, the more I realize how easy it is to get lost in it. Sometimes our egos just creep up on us and we don’t even realize it until later, once we’ve had a chance to catch our breath. It’s an industry of pressure, burnouts and competition; pretty much all the ingredients anyone needs to neglect our mental health. I’ve certainly had to remind myself of that lesson a lot, and it’s something I’m committed to relearning as often as I need to.
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. If you laid down your name, role, and possessions—what would remain?
My integrity. My values. My presence. My endless fascination with the human condition and curiosity for understanding what makes people behave the way we behave.
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Anna Mendes Caldeira Rathsam.
