Today we’d like to introduce you to Cole Lawson.
Cole, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
I can’t really pinpoint in my life where I got started when I look back I realize I got to where I am because I just always kept going. All the things I’ve been through in my life — from growing up in a broken home, parents being in and out of jail, moving around, growing up too quick, joining the military, sexual, verbal, physical traumas, alcoholism, depression, suicidal tendencies, losing folks to suicide, bad relationships with others and myself I can honestly say all of it is how I got started. The moment I took my first breath here is when my journey began. It didn’t always look like I was going anywhere but in hindsight, it was all preparation and still is for where I am headed.
Things have a way of magically unfolding when you wake up to the brilliance of it all. I thought my life was absolute shit. Most of my life was a pity party of poor me, why me, and it wasn’t until I took a step back and looked at everything I’ve been through leading up to where I am was I truly able to say, “Wow” God or source or whatever great power you resonate with is fucking brilliant the way they planned this out. It easy to be lost in the sauce and not see progress, to constantly feel like you are losing yourself but I truly think there’s a divine plan for all of us. I don’t define myself by my past anymore. I know that sounds crazy because we are taught your past makes you who you are but I don’t resonate with that. My past unfolded for me to choose who I was going to be. The past is of little relevance to me because that would mean me attaching to a story I don’t like. I’m not a victim. I’m WINNING because of I’m still here. I will say, though for the sake of relatability the best thing I’ve learned to do was renarrate my story for a place of power rather than the seat of victimization. I became the hero.
The big shift for me was in 2015, I had my spiritual awakening right after I got my second DUI, ran into another car head on, totaled my car, walked out without a scratch or a felony and I knew some greater power had its hand wrapped around me. That life was not letting me go. I had already attempted suicide twice by this juncture and that second DUI was my wake up call. That I’m here so what am I going to do with my life and who am I going to be because who I am is miserable and it showed in every aspect of my life. Even though I had friends and I wasn’t lame I was WILD !!! After that DUI, I got kicked out of the military and I was so ashamed I only told the closet to me and those were none of my family members. Then I embarked on this ego filled journey to prove I wasn’t a shit show and that my life wasn’t going to crumble. It became about proving and overcompensating because I felt worthless inside. Then I started writing and performing poetry full time that changed my life, I even wrote a book. I always knew I wanted to do something serving and connecting with people I just didn’t know what. I was a psychology and philosophy nerd but I didn’t know how to marry the two.
As time went on, I started to really dive deep into my spiritual practice and learn myself and admit all the shit that had gone on. I started to accept myself and create myself to be someone better and stronger. I started to really cultivate my resilience. Before I would just keep going, then it turned into going with a purpose and direction. I was called to do more and I could feel it. So I researched and life coaching kind of fell in my lap. I loved it because I could tailor it to my liking incorporating my own spirituality and bridging the gap to give people a holistic approach to changing their lives. After being in therapy and on anti-depressants and anxiety meds for years, I realized its bullshit and depressing and anxiety are not diagnoses they are symptoms of all the trauma and vibrations I had been carrying.
So I started learning more about chakras and NLP and CBT and all the different ways to heal myself. I stopped looking outwards and looked inward and thats when everything changed. Then I honestly put a vision in my head and went after it. Last year I got fired from my cushy medical job out of nowhere. They literally said ill send you a letter in the mail and nothing and that’s when I knew the universe said its time to go all in. Before I was just doing it part-time. And now own my own company ” The resilient, LLC” I offer tarot therapy, energy healing, and coaching along with retreats and workshops. My passion is to help people help themselves so I wouldn’t even say I’m a coach I feel like it puts me in a superior position when I am human and learning and evolving just like everyone. I help facilitate transformations in people. I hold space. I mirror your brightest parts and help you walk through the darkest. But I give you the keys and let you open your own door. I love what I do and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I love connecting with people and helping them see their own light. It beautiful and magical when people wake up to the God in them.
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
Heck no! Lol, it never is. It’s been hard! It still is sometimes but you have to choose your hard in this life because none of it is easy. But the way I experience my life is better because of the choice I made to go down this road. A big struggle for me was feeling of worthiness, connecting, security, and going crazy. Growing up without my parents caused me to have a skewed vision of my childhood. So I overlooked all my blessings expecting them to look like something else. It all still played out well but the experience of it could have been better if I wasn’t so fixated on my parents not being there. They were just humans trying to figure it out too. I see that now and I couldn’t be who I am today had they have been there for me so for that I am beyond grateful. Because of that self-induced suffering, I made alot of bad choices to confirm unknowing this unworthiness I felt. Be it my choice in women or friendships or jobs or addictions, seeking attention, being suicidal it all stemmed from there.
I think the hardest time of my life was my awakening. My grandmother was living with me (RIP) who was an alcoholic, well an addict really the kind that will do anything for a high. But she was an amazing woman, just a hurt woman. But she was living with me and I was in the midst of my alcoholism and getting kicked out of the Navy dealing with court stuff and my relationships were falling apart and I was hearing voices as I was being awakened to the multi-dimensions in me and having vivid ass dreams of things that ended up happening the future. I legit thought I was going crazy. My money was funny, my life was in pieces, and my heart was just cold. That period was rough. I vowed to myself to never try to kill myself again so I had no option but to face myself. I think that’s what hurt me the most beyond what anyone has ever done was when I had to look myself in the face and realize I was where I was because of me. And my choices. When I accepted that I shattered so beautifully, then things got better for a bit but another low hit after another breakup where I had repeated a karmic cycle of being with a lover that was not for me. But my need for worthiness and attention caused me to stay.
However, that situation gave me back to myself. But I had to look myself in the face again and accept my faults. I mean we all struggle with insecurities and such at some point and comparison and doubt but I think the biggest and hardest pill to swallow is when you realize its all because of you no matter how much we want to blame. Everyone just mirrors back to us our own truth. So now every day I make sure to be radically honest with myself but in a compassionate way and its made me have so much more compassion for others and their journey. Blaming people is easy but accepting the responsibility that shit is harrrrrrdT! I’ve been cheated on, lied to, left, hurt, damaged, raped, played, abused, but the hardest struggle is that disappointment in myself. I hate that feeling.
The Resilient, LLC – what should we know? What do you do best? What sets you apart from the competition?
My company is called The resilient. I offer Tarot therapy, energy healing, and life coaching. Outside of that, I hold workshops and events and sell as I’m starting an apothecary line that will be dropping soon, starting with my line of luxury candles and ritual candles. My business is different because it’s not about me. I would do it even without the money. It’s about serving and giving back the things I needed being here. It’s about bridging the gap between spirituality and psychology to cultivate resilience. It’s about building community and ritual for self-preservation which is also the preservation of everyone. It’s about love and healthy living, thinking, and acting.
I specialize in resilience, self-care, and future self-alignment, along with being an intuitive tarot reader. I also have a no bullshit approach. I do not sugar coat. I have compassion and empathy but I’m real all the way around and that’s hard to come by these days.
I help people activate their resilience through inner-standing + unwavering self-belief. My mission is to hold space for you and help you awaken + create + navigate the path to your most authentic, powerful, ethereal self. Through ritual creating, deep diving into personal inner-space, and creating containers that always have room for expansion; my goal is to help you unlearn domestication and re-learn yourself. Peeling each layer back piece x peace will allow you to see the masterpiece of yourself as is and always was. Creating that inner trust and awareness of your true self will activate your unstoppable– unfuckwithable resilience. You will not only be able to navigate the difficult situations but appreciate and learn from them as well. Resilience is not just about the comeback but how you GREW through it and who you become when you reach the other side. My mission is to help you become soft. Because soft things may bend but they don’t break.
By helping you change your relationship with yourself, it will, in turn, change your relationship and how you interact with everyone/everything around you. Creating connectedness through authentic compassion, empathy, and raw/radical truth, you will not just raise your vibration and open up opportunities for you but for the entire universe. I want to inspire you to K E E P G O I N G! To never give up on yourself and to activate your intrinsic motivation, discipline, and love. We are all vital parts of the universe and your magic is needed here.
What moment in your career do you look back most fondly on?
That’s such a hard question I’m proud of every moment honestly. The proudest I would say is when I decided to go all in. When I started believing in me winning, then I did me failing. It’s still hard sometimes learning all the business stuff but man I am really proud to be in the position to love on as many people as I do. My proudest moments are when I went all in because now when I talk to my clients, I can show them not just tell them how capable they are. That and when I wrote my book of poems. But even both of those moments I’m proud because of what I accomplished yes. But more proud of how many people I touch and impact daily to shift their life. That is priceless.
Pricing:
- Tarot Therapy rages from $44-S111/hr
- Energy healing ranges from $55-111/hr
- Spiritual guidance or what I would call soul storming / star gazing sessions rage from $77-$88/hr
Contact Info:
- Email: Cole@fortheresilient.com
- Instagram: @eyeamcolelawson @for.theresilient @the.resilienceroom
- Twitter: @eyeamcolelawson
- Other: fortheresilient.as.me
Image Credit:
Dominique Neal and Hands in the soil
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