We recently had the chance to connect with Elysia J and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Elysia , thank you so much for joining us today. What is something outside of work that is bringing you joy lately?
Honestly, spending time with people and animals that I love, and being in nature. On top of creating art just for the sake of creation…. So “playing” is fun for me as I consider making art for fun, play
-I have a family dog that I absolutely adore. His name is Melo and I love him so much. Everywhere we go people stop and thank me for making their day because they encountered my little guy
-Spending time with close long-term friendships I have had means the world to me and feels so grounding, loving, and secure.
-I make it a point to hike and visit the beach about once a week for my mental health maintenance. I started doing this in the pandemic and it worked wonders for my soul and spirit.
-I have also been painting, creating DJ mixes, and much more just for fun, which feels amazing. It’s so important to do, especially with the world wanting our attention and to remain stressed or over capacity because there is always something to do or someone to help…. Instead of getting swept up in that (because it is by design to distract us) we can instead choose to consciously and intentionally make and spend time for openness, play, and magic. Aka feminine energy.
Have you ever noticed how you can get the best ideas in the shower or on a walk? That is because you are placing yourself in a state of receptivity, and passivity, so you can RECEIVE divine knowledge and intelligence, because you put yourself in an environment and STATE that allows you to relax and receive. The world needs a lot more of that now. Grounding, breathing, and playing All those things have been working wonders for me!
Can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers and tell them a bit about what you do, your brand or organization and what makes it interesting/special/unique or anything else you’d like them to know about you / your story /your brand and what you are working on / etc.
You can read all about my story here – www.divinelightwisdom.com or on my linktree below where I have many articles written about various parts of my story.
Personally I love supporting others through their greatest healings and transformations, as well as doing my own spiritual and artistic work
What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
Great question. The only thing that comes to mind is that I was not “good enough” and “worthy” of the deep desires I had. It’s funny because I was attending a leadership seminar a decade ago chatting with another attendee and coach, and we were discussing (I had been coaching others for about 5 years at that point) that every single person has or has HAD a core limiting belief that boils down to “I am not enough” in SOME way shape or form. I am not lovable, I am not worthy, I am not good enough in this area, they are all extensions of some feeling of lack or feeling not enough.
I didn’t have this feeling for no reason though… From the time I was in utero with my pregnant mother, she was experiencing tremendous physical and psychological abuse, that I felt as an infant, child, etc, and I got to feel, witness, and watch (except for the physical abuse thank God) my father do everything he could to do hurt her, sabotage her, and separate her from me, while also treating me like royalty and speaking bad about her, which deeply hurt and confused me as you could imagine.
I was court ordered to be separated by my mother and spend 1-2 days a week as a newborn with my father. Maybe towards a linear, “logical” mind, this makes sense. But let me tell you! As a baby, my first memory was sleeping in my crib and 6 months years old, and waking up in the middle of the night. And KNOWING my mother was not there (as she didn’t live there at my fathers) and asking myself “Where is my mom?” I felt SO physically unsafe as an INFANT! And yet I still remember it. How wild is that?
I say this to say that the Family Law system is very corrupt and outdated and I am a survivor of that system that is supposed to help families, but instead actually rips a lot of family members apart and does not put the child’s interest first, if at all. I also say this to say that children need SO much safety, time with their mother or main caregiver, stability, structure, and routine. Without it, it creates a deep sense of unsafety, fear, and a deep feeling of neglect and not being loved or enough, even if it is not true.
BOTH of my parents loved me very much and did everything they could to show me that, to the point that friends and even strangers would often comment on how much they would do for me. I am so grateful for those experiences, and yet, nothing fixed those earlier memories , especially because I had to navigate a lot of chaos, drama, and manipulation from family members that felt so scary and sad. I also acknowledge that my parents, although amazing people in their own right, are human, witnessed an extreme amount of trauma individually and collectively prior to being parents, AND without the tools they needed, genuinely did the best they could. I can now see that certain unhealed parts of my parents psyche was filled with unhealed wounds that made them revert back to a child’s age (and the ages when these traumas happened) and to act out of character, making my childhood very complex.
This is why I devoted my life to the healing arts, coaching works, and restoring family systems. Family is the most important part of a child’s psyche, and The United State has done an exemplary job “acting as if” this country promotes family values, when in reality, this country operations more as a corporation, looking at its citizens as employees for THEIR agenda, not as sovereign beings that they are made to support, take care of, uplift, and support the family structure.
Even though my EGO was bruised, hurt, and scared from these events and experiences, my soul and spirit NEVER waivered. I always knew I was special, I was a child of God, and I was going to do incredible things in my life. I knew this because from Day one, God has always had his hand over me. When I felt scared and unseen or unsafe at home, he comforted me, lead me, and taught me so much by me being still, open, and listening to the whispers around me; God is always there if you speak your truth and then stop and listen where you can.
What have been the defining wounds in your life and how did you heal them?
That’s a huge question! Regarding wounds, I would say I have experienced many forms of being lied to, let down, neglected, betrayed, and overall receiving hurtful energy from others who projected upon me at times throughout my life. Which felt deeply sad, hurtful, and disappointing. When it comes to healing them, I have a process I use however it involves feeling your feelings, expressing them, and taking actions that honor you or can create a win/win solution for all parties involved (if you can, as sometimes that may not be possible). It involves becoming clear on your deepest, truest hearts desires, and taking the disappointment or hurt you have, and instead of channeling that into anger towards that person who hurt you, or towards self pity, (after I have emotionally addressed it out course), you channel that energy into the things that bring you the deepest joy, fulfillment, happiness, and success. I can’t tell you how many amazing out of this world blessings and experiences came into my life that I have received when I have let go and let God, so to speak. It’s a beautiful process. This is the process of emotional and spiritual alchemy. Amazing things can happen when you channel you energy into the correct channels and spaces and see what multiplies and magnifies in your reality because of it.
I love this question. In the coaching and transformational healing space, I’ve noticed many people who promise wild goals like attracting your soulmate in 2 weeks, or taking only 3 weeks to radically transform your body! While I know there are transformational and transcendental events that can deeply rewire you and change you in an instant, I also deeply understand that true, powerful, immovable change does take time and a lot of repetition. Meaning we practice who we are going to become hundreds of times before we actually become it – because at that point, the learns behaviors, choices, and values are ingrained in who we are and how we operate. It takes T-I-M-E to understand and master yourself and learn in relationship. It takes TIME to transform your body, mind, and life! While yes, everyone wants a “get rich quick scheme” or a pill to magically make the thing appear or disappear, nothing, and I repeat, nothing, will ever trump you showing up and actually doing the hard work or the hard thing, rather than trying to take the easy shortcuts. They do not work out in the long run and just like how one has to take a weed out at the root in order to eliminate it completely, we have to do the same thing with our subconscious fears, habits, and blocks. All these things take deep time and integration to truly experience the effects of quantum leaping and quantum healing within the self and others.
When do you feel the most at peace?
I feel the most at peace in nature and in solitude. At the beach, on a hike, in the forest, with my animals (or animals in general), and/or with myself in a cozy, safe space. I feel the most at peace when I can hear the birds chirping in the morning, slowly drinking and savoring my favorite cup of cacao, breathing fresh air deeply, and either being alone with my thoughts or listening to soft music. When I feel still and connected to nature, I feel the most at peace, always.
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