We recently had the chance to connect with Nathan Spiteri and have shared our conversation below.
Nathan, really appreciate you sharing your stories and insights with us. The world would have so much more understanding and empathy if we all were a bit more open about our stories and how they have helped shaped our journey and worldview. Let’s jump in with a fun one: What do the first 90 minutes of your day look like?
My first 90 minutes of the day are getting up around 7 or 730 AM, getting dressed and going to the gym for a workout. I first start out with a good 15min stretch and warm up followed by either a boxing, weights or cardio workout. I barely look at my phone. I only check the necessities. I don’t look at social media.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Nathan Spiteri is a dynamic presence in the realms of filmmaking, acting, and writing, recognized globally for his advocacy and creative storytelling. Humble beginnings in Canberra, Australia, and a life marked by overcoming the trials of years of childhood sexual abuse, has shaped Nathan into a powerful voice for resilience and change. As a global advocate, speaker and change agent, Nathan is dedicated to shifting the burden of shame and fostering a healthier understanding of masculinity.
His acting journey has taken him from Australia to the USA where he has starred in many short and feature films in both countries, as well as gracing the stage in many theatre productions.
Author of his memoir ‘Toy Cars,’ and creator of ‘The Childhood Trauma Recovery Workbook for Adults,’ Nathan transforms personal experiences into profound narratives of connection and inspiration. His raw, honest writing resonates with universal human themes, embodying his commitment to empowering voices and sparking societal transformation.
Nathan’s impact extends beyond his artistic work. His TEDx Talk and international keynote speeches position him as a leading authority in advocating for mental health and supporting survivors of abuse. His roles with the Children’s Liberation Foundation (CLF) and the ‘No More’ campaign further his mission, making him a pivotal figure in driving global change.
His creative journey is marked by significant projects, including a feature film and documentary based on his life, underscoring his diverse talents. Nathan’s endeavors, whether in front of the camera or on the global stage, are unified by a singular vision: to craft narratives that not only resonate but also empower and inspire.
Great, so let’s dive into your journey a bit more. What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
Due to a result of years of child sexual abuse, which included years of grooming and lies, I believed that what happened to me was all my fault. That I was worthless and didn’t deserve love, joy, peace or any kind of happiness in my life. As a result I suffered through self sabotage and imposter syndrome, making sure I remained in that frame of thought, Anything good that happened to me, I made sure to sabotage. I was not deserving of anything and looked at myself as nothing, a piece of shit, and someone who didn’t deserve.
I now understand that what happened to me was not my fault, that I am worthy of love, peace, success, joy and happiness. I am no longer a victim, I am a survivor and I have found my voice, my power and my light. Educating the world on masculinity, shame, empathy, communication and child and male sexual abuse. A topic that the world still turns a blind eye too, sweeping it under the carpet.
What have been the defining wounds of your life—and how have you healed them?
The defining wounds of my life were years of child sexual abuse from 8 to 13 years old. as a result I suffered through violence, addictions, drugs and sex. I was unable to hold a relationship and a job, sabotaging all that came my way.
The way I healed from these wounds was three main points.
Understanding that it wasn’t my fault. The weight of the world lifted off my shoulders and I was finally able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Finding forgiveness. Not for the man who abused me, but for myself for the hurt that was put onto me and the hurt I put onto others. This allowed me to understand my relationship with the man who abused me, with my family, friends and lovers. It allowed me to understand who I am and accept my past and to move forward with it. Not throwing it away and pretending it never existed.
Owning who I am. The good, the bad and the ugly. Owning everything I have been through and has allowed me to find my voice, my strength and my power.
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. What’s a belief or project you’re committed to, no matter how long it takes?
Educating the world on sexual abuse. child, male/female and all forms of abuse. I already speak globally as a keynote on this matter. However, I want to take it to the next level. I want to be a voice for the voiceless, let them know that they are not alone, they are loved and believed. My memoir was released, which is now being turned into a movie. I want to continue making movies and documentaries on social justice and matters that impact the world and can create change.
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. If you knew you had 10 years left, what would you stop doing immediately?
Procrastinating and believing that I’m not worthy or can’t do it. I would live my true and authentic life to a higher level that I do now and I would speak my truth.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.nathanspiteri.com
- Instagram: nathanspiteri
- Linkedin: Nathan Spiteri
- Twitter: @nathanspiteri2
- Facebook: Nathan Spiteri
Image Credits
image credits are Ylva Erevall, Dean Love, Isak Tiner
