Today we’d like to introduce you to Yoni M.
Yoni, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
It’s funny to be the host of my own show, Yoni Talks TV. I can remember in high school while trying to figure out my career path, I purposefully only considered paths that seemingly wouldn’t require public speaking. I loved law – but if I practiced law I knew it would have to be a concentration that didn’t involve the courtroom because… public speaking. I decided not to pursue law, but it’s ironic that the very thing that I wanted to avoid is the very thing that keeps me up at night and ignites a passion that I’ve never felt before. I absolutely LOVE talking about dating, human connections, the male vs. female perspective, and all the good, bad, and awkwardness of sex and relationships.
After college, I was always the center of conversations that would become very emotionally driven, humorous and intense whenever I told dating stories. Everyone would be involved in such a passionate way – strangers would sometimes even join the conversation and provide their points. A few months after I spoke my dating truths on a local dating podcast, Issa Rae released season 2 of HBO’s hit show Insecure. This show resonated to me and so many other millennials – the friendship bond with your close girls/guys, dating men with potential, infidelity, and revenge sex. The night the show premiered season 2, I decided at 10 pm that I wanted to curate a conversation around it.
Though I had to work the next morning from 9-5, I made the decision to air the first episode of Yoni Talks TV at 7 pm. It obviously wasn’t the best production considering that it was all planned in less than 24 hours and I also have zero production experience (lol). It was an entertaining, refreshing, and for the first time ever, nothing mattered but the show. Not even the heated argument that I was having with my ex-boyfriend, well more like situationship, up until the start of the episode. That’s how I started, and I’ve expanded Yoni Talks to now include conversations on viewer submitted dating questions, my dating life in LA, hot topics, lifestyle and so much more.
Has it been a smooth road?
Nothing good ever comes easy. Well, I can name a few things like winning the lottery, but that’s beside the point (lol). I’m a very independent woman and as simple as it seems, I struggle with asking for help from others. It’s funny because I will offer or when asked, go completely above and beyond to help others, but for some reason I’ve felt that I was unworthy or deserving of the same thing. I’ve stressed myself out and wore myself thin in an attempt to be this unattainable juggler of all tasks.
The reality is, I’m not good at everything, so I should be asking for help so I can focus on what I AM good at. For example, when I started Yoni Talks TV, I wanted to do everything on my own. Production, directing, booking guests, editing, hosting, you name it – I was a one-woman band. All while working a full-time job. Thankfully, I was blessed to have friends who are producers that offered assistance and guidance which was a game changer. I asked a videographer for help recording and editing, and suddenly a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
I’ve noticed that there are so many people who are willing and excited to help me when I release my ego and the notion that I should do it all by myself. Navigating the world of marketing, content distribution and brand awareness have also been a learning process that hasn’t been the easiest. Circling back to an earlier point, I need help. Not to toot my own horn, but I know my content is dope. The only thing I’m missing is strategic distribution to reach a larger audience. Toot Toot!
I’m working to increase my viewership and engagement so the masses can be included in the conversation. Recently, I’ve had the pleasure of collaborating with a few talented creatives, and I look forward to continuing the brand partnerships. Thank you Voyage LA for the feature!
We’d love to hear more about what you do.
I’m the host of Yoni Talks TV – a YouTube and Instagram live show. I’m known for my unconventional approaches to dating, sex, and relationships. Visualize a podcast where the host is discussing hot topics based on dating, sex, and relationships in the age of millennials.
When listening to podcasts I ALWAYS want to chime in and provide my two cents, but obviously, I would find myself responding to pre-recorded audio. I decided to enhance this type of experience by curating an Instagram live show where I can interact with viewers in real time. The difference and most exciting aspect of Yoni Talks TV is the interaction between myself and viewers, and the chat room like the interaction between the viewers.
A recent topic we explored was providing feedback to a first date on why you’re not interested in pursuing future dates. Is ghosting easier? Is offering feedback and pointers for improvement meaningful or offensive? I think it’s worth mentioning that this topic surfaced because I went on a date and the gentleman thought it went great and was ready to plan the next – this is when I declined and asked him if he’d like feedback on why I wasn’t interested.
Personally, I enjoy feedback in all areas of life, but I quickly realized based on responses that many people felt that a first date isn’t a performance review. We all have experiences that shape our thoughts and how we navigate through life, so it’s interesting to witness the perspectives of others. It’s an inclusive space that welcomes and encourages diverse viewpoints.
What quality or characteristic do you feel is most important to your success?
Trusting my dopeness. I printed that quote and placed it on my vision board as a reminder. I’ve had a bad habit of doubting myself and talking my way out of so many opportunities. There have been times when I subconsciously thought I wasn’t good enough for many opportunities – something in me thought that there would be someone who was better.
It was when I was selected for the same opportunities that I talked myself out of that I realized that I bring unique and meaningful perspectives to the table. No one has my flavor. I’m uniquely me. When I began trusting and truly betting on myself, my experience navigating through life significantly changed. My confidence increased, and so did the opportunities that came my way.
I’ve learned to think of horses as a source of motivation. Horses have peripheral vision and wear blinders in races to prevent them from looking at what the horses to the left and right are doing. The horse has to remain focused, on course, and dedicated to finishing. Whenever I have self-doubt, I use this as a reminder of what I should be focused on. Did I just compare myself to a horse?
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