Today we’d like to introduce you to Ravelle Worthington.
Ravelle, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
When I became pregnant with our son, I had recently been laid off from my full-time position as a managing editor and ventured into the world of freelance writing for the digital verticals of several national women’s magazines. I liked the idea of having flexible hours, especially with a baby on the way. However, while I was making good money for a freelancer, it was at times inconsistent and probably a quarter of what I had made at my prior company. When I was 34 weeks pregnant, I learned of a job listing for a remote editor’s position. It was part-time, but the pay was higher than what I was making as a freelancer, and I knew I’d be getting a regular paycheck that wasn’t dependent on how many articles I was writing that month.
I ended up submitting a final round edit test for that role four days after my son was born by emergency c-section and was hired to start working two weeks after. I was thankful for the job because it was in a field I loved, allowed me to work from home, and most importantly, I was able to provide consistent income to supplement what my husband was then making. It’s only now that I reflect on the time that I realize what a blur it all was. I honestly don’t remember much from the first six months of my son’s life. Between the sleep deprivation and working hours that ended up being more along the lines of full-time — with me starting early in the morning and working into the evening — we were all just surviving. My story is not unique. There are hundreds of thousands of women in the US who do not have maternity leave. I feel fortunate though and know what a privilege it was to be able to work with my baby sleeping on my chest. In fact, that’s how we spent most of our days in those first few months.
When my son was 6-months-old, we made the decision to move cross-country to Phoenix, AZ and I resigned from my position. We had been living in Connecticut at the time, not even a full year yet. We had quickly learned that not only were we still unable to save money, but my husband’s long work commute to New York City meant he was getting home most nights long after our son had fallen asleep. Life is funny though, because one week after making the move to Phoenix, we found out we were pregnant with our daughter.
The following year, in 2017, we moved to Los Angeles, CA, where we now live. Motherhood in those first couple of years of my older children’s lives was tough. I had two babies under the age of two and was living in a city far away from my family and friends. I felt isolated and alone.
Thanks to social media, I began connecting with other moms and learned that these “ugly” feelings — the feelings of isolation, not loving every moment of motherhood, feelings of not being enough, not doing enough — were normal. There were and are other women who felt and feel this way too. And so Mommy Brain was born.
Society tends to talk about motherhood, to describe all that it is, in a very positive, beautiful light. While this is one side of it, there’s also another side. By highlighting only the “happy,” it makes it really difficult for women to come forward and share any of the hard stuff they’ve been going through. Mommy Brain is working to change the conversation. Women are expected to do it all, be everything to everyone in their lives. The pressure is enormous and it’s unrealistic to give 100% of ourselves across all facets 100% of the time. Mommy Brain is a digital platform for moms to receive support from pregnancy, birth, and beyond by way of community, resources, and expert-led discussions and workshops.
Has it been a smooth road?
Whenever you’re creating something new, there are learning curves as you maneuver your way through all of the unknown. You question yourself a lot. Wondering: “Are you making the right decisions?” Then there’s the imposter syndrome that threatens to set in on a pretty regular basis. Some lessons that I have learned (and still get a refresher course in) are:
1. It Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect To Launch/Start
You’ll never be 100% ready. The more you sit on your idea or wait to take action, the more space you give to fear and self-doubt to settle in. Launch and pivot as you grow and learn.
2. Nobody Has It All The Way Figured Out
It can be so easy to spiral down the rabbit hole questioning of: “Why me?” And you know what, why not you. Nobody has it completely figured out. We’ve all got doubts — wondering if we’re good enough to take on the challenge in front of us. You learn as you go.
3. Don’t Get Caught Up In The Competition
There’s always going to be some sort of competition. That’s life. But no one is YOU. No one thinks like you or will execute a plan the same as you. You’ve got your own unique magic, so don’t underestimate the power you possess. Also, if you ever get overwhelmed thinking about how your idea/business/etc. measures up, take a walk down the bread aisle. Dozens of options, same core concept, but all a little different and all with a market of ideal customers.
4. Comparison Is A One-Way Road To Nowhere
Don’t compare. Don’t compare. Don’t compare. Easier said than done, I know. Especially in this digital age we live in where everyone shares mostly their highlight reels. When you’re first starting out, it can be disheartening to hear one success story after the other, especially when you’ve been getting a string of “nos.” It can cause you to question the job you’re doing. “Are you doing enough? Are YOU enough?” But, you don’t know how many rejections that person faced before getting the first “yes.” You don’t know how many hours, days, years they put in to get to the place that they’re now sharing about. I truly think the key to success is consistency and a refusal to give up because eventually you reach the top. Also, you get to decide what that looks like — what success is for you.
5. Don’t Be Afraid To Fail
Failure has been labeled as this taboo thing in our society. Failing doesn’t mean you’re not worthy — it means you tried something and it didn’t work out. You now have that wealth of learning that can be applied to your next idea or endeavor.
We’d love to hear more about Mommy Brain.
Motherhood presents challenges that are often unpredictable and unforeseen. Mommy Brain helps moms navigate the toughest parts of motherhood by providing support through accessible experts and judgment-free community.
We address these challenges in three specific ways:
1. Experts that help you go beyond Google and answer questions that are specific to your situation.
2. Peer-related support so you can connect with other moms.
3. Relatable Content so you can read about other women’s experiences.
I’m really proud of the community of moms who make up Mommy Brain. These women aren’t afraid to be vulnerable — to share their experiences and be a support for each other. But more than the community, Mommy Brain makes receiving expert help accessible. Being able to talk with a lactation or sleep consultant, or licensed therapist about a specific motherhood-related topic is as easy as sending a message on your phone.
We have three different tiers, which I’ve outlined below with their respective benefits.
Mommy Brain Community (Free)
- Monthly Q&As with guest speakers and experts, plus video replay.
- Digital community of moms.
- Discussions delving deeper into the different facets of motherhood.
Text An Expert ($29.99/month or $69/3 months)
- Chat with our team of health, wellness, pre- and postpartum specialists and get answers to your questions.
- Mommy Brain Community benefits.
Corporate Moms ($39.99/month)
- Monthly group coaching sessions with an executive coach.
- Monthly recorded interviews featuring industry leaders.
- Text An Expert benefits.
Finding a mentor and building a network are often cited in studies as a major factor impacting one’s success. Do you have any advice or lessons to share regarding finding a mentor or networking in general?
Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. I know there are a ton of options when it comes to the different meet-ups, conferences, and networking events, which can get pricey. So don’t think you need to attend every single event in your space. Be intentional about where you choose to spend your time — take a look at the panels, speakers, sponsors, etc. What would help to move the needle for you in some way, whether it’s knowledge gained or connection made?
You can receive mentorship in so many ways: from hearing someone you admire speak, reading their work, or physically connecting. If you’re looking for a physical connection, it’s important to first form a relationship with the person. I.e. Don’t ask someone you first meet at a conference if he/she/they will be your mentor. Another great way to receive mentorship, without asking someone to commit is to ask if they would be able to chat with you for 20 minutes about XYZ topic. When using this approach, include a couple of sentences in your email about why you would like the opportunity to connect and include a timeline in which to schedule the call.
- Mommy Brain Community (Free)
- Text An Expert: Here For When You Need More Than Google ($29.99/per month or $69/3 months)
- Corporate Moms: Together We Can Break Ceilings ($39.99/month)
- Website: www.mommybrain.com
- Email: email@example.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mommy_brain
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mommybrainhq/
- Other: https://mommy-brain.mn.co
First Family Photo: Aleah Clark; Second Family Photo: Aleah Clark