Today we’d like to introduce you to Isabella Frappier.
Isabella, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
I’m happy to say, I have the life, and sex life of my dreams, but here’s the thing, I wasn’t always this way. Not at all. I lived my life in pain and anguish, sexually and spiritually starved, and sex used to be a performance sport to me. I faked all my orgasms. I know, it’s not ideal, and you might be wondering how I got to where I am now. My life is a pretty open book, so let’s dive in.
I feel really grateful to be a sexuality doula. I wake up every morning with a smile on my face, excited to serve. It is my absolute privilege and honor to support folks on their journey to sexual liberation. It’s truly my calling.
I’m Australian-Canadian, and I grew up in Australia, living in the mountains and roaming around hugging enormous trees and listening to bird calls. I spent my youth reading books and nursing animals back to life with a tender, intuitive touch. I spent my teenage years studying and journaling about natural medicine, witchcraft, and tarot, and finished my second book at sixteen. I worked as a nanny throughout my youth and relished in helping mothers connect with themselves and with their children, and helping children find their voices. By the time I moved out of my mother’s nature-filled home at eighteen years old, I had embraced my identity as a second generation psychic medium and dedicated my life to working with women.
I have spent the past ten years voraciously learning about plant medicine, tarot, womb wisdom, sensual sexual power, and intuitive ancient teachings. I have studied through some structured education systems as I found it necessary, such as Southern School of Natural Therapies, Bini Birth, Milc Lactation, etc., but I have always placed the most importance on books, on intuitive energetic knowledge, and on learning from my mistakes and my own journey.
I loved being formally trained to hold space. It was part of the great honor I felt in learning how to be a Birth Doula, a process I enjoyed tremendously. As I began my journey being a support during birth, I was struck by how disconnected birthing people (not everyone who births identifies as a woman) often were with their bodies, their fertility, and their power. I was horrified at the disconnect between the sensuality of childbirth, and the clinical way it’s often portrayed to, and imposed upon, us. I loved my work, but I was heartbroken by the continual witnessing of people being stripped of their power and their sensuality during this beautiful and significant rite of passage.
I offered full-spectrum Birth Support, which means I supported my clients throughout their pregnancies, births, and post-partum. Regardless of the outcome of the pregnancy, I’m there for them. I was devastated to see the long term negative impacts on my clients from the Western medical system robbing them of their autonomy and sensuality during birth. My work organically transitioned into being a sexuality support person post-partum. I was blessed to see my business flourish through word of mouth alone, and it became my full-time work. During a guest appearance I did on the wonderful Sluts and Scholars podcast, they dubbed me a “Sexuality Doula”. It felt fitting and much catchier than what I had been calling myself, a ‘Holistic Women’s Wellness Guide who specializes in body literacy and sexual sovereignty’. Which, while very accurate, is a little hard to remember.
Working as a Sexuality Doula has been my most fulfilling work to date.
It is an honor to help people reclaim their power, re-inspire their sovereignty, and explore and embrace their sexuality. Inspired by this work, I have also created a private women-only online community. It is a safe space to both express and to listen about the experience of being female, share stories, celebrate bodies, as well as receiving guidance and counsel from me through interactive online lessons. I also write both personal stories and educational articles for several major websites, about sexual sovereignty, body literacy, and the many complexities of being female-bodied.
Helping people to live their best sex lives is the most important thing to me. Helping to demystify the many cycles we go through, leading people towards their sensual sovereignty, and helping to awaken their own innate wisdom is my life calling. Let me help you remember what you knew before you were born. Help you find your voice again. Help align your heart with your sensuality and move into your true flow in life. When we operate from our sensual power, we flow. We are rooted, but we flow.
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
I have always followed the call of the universe towards how best to serve women. During my time as a birth doula, I was very heartbroken to see the way birthing folks were treated.
Since I’ve focused full time on being a Sexuality Doula, the road has been smooth, loving, exciting, and wonderful!
We’d love to hear more about your work and what you are currently focused on. What else should we know?
The way I see it, a sexuality doula is someone who accompanies you on your sexual liberation journey. I don’t walk in front of you thinking I have all the answers and know where to go. I don’t trail behind you, unsure and feeling lost myself. I walk beside you, as someone who has journeyed their own path before.
I know my own way home to myself, but I wouldn’t presume to know yours. I am there to awaken your own wisdom, your own inner knowing. To remind you of the childlike sense of wonder and excitement you once felt for your sensuality, and help you step back into it.
As a Sexuality Doula, I hold space for you during the transition into reclaiming your sexuality. Just as I did when I supported people during their transition into parenthood as a Birth Doula. I am here to bear witness to your journey. To support and encourage, providing thoughtful reflections and advice. I am not a Guru or Spiritual Advisor, I am a mirror that reminds you of what you have forgotten.
I do provide resources, exercises, guided practices, information, and sex education as needed, but I truly see my work as more supporting, inspiring, reflecting rather than teaching. I don’t think anyone can teach you about your own sexuality, or heal you, or be your guru. But I can help you become your own teacher, healer, and guru.
I also write sex positive and body educational articles on topics near and dear to my heart to further promote my sex positive message. I’ve been published at Sex With Emily, Fatherly, Thinx, Chakrubs, Foria, and more!
What moment in your career do you look back most fondly on?
It’s impossible to pick one! Every single time a client tells me how working with me has changed their life my whole heart sings.
- Website: www.isabellafrappier.com
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
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- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/S.xualitydoula/
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