Today we’d like to introduce you to Brittany Broaddus-Smith, LSW, MEd.
Brittany, please share your story with us. How did you get to where you are today?
I started off wanting to be a lawyer. Literally until my first day of college, where I enrolled as a Poli Sci major, I was going to be Johnny Cochran and find my way to the Dream Team. However, my first professor for that 8am class bored me to tears. Literally! The next day I changed my major to Psychology.
From there, I would go on to get a master’s in social work and another in Clinical Human Sexuality. My primary focus was to do couples therapy. But God had other plans. All of my training is clinical, but my heart’s work is comprehensive sexuality education for believers in Jesus Christ. Despite popular belief, sex is a God thing. I am the self-appointed representative for all those on are unapologetically in love with Jesus AND sex, even if they aren’t having any. I believe being a sexual being and being sexually active are not the same. Abstinence is sexy too. But when those I work with have reached that appointed time, then I want them to ride it until the wheels fall off (no pun intended). Pleasure is our birthright!
In 2016, I started The Intimacy Firm. TIF is an intimacy coaching and sexuality education agency. My mission is to empower individuals to discover, navigate and embrace their sexual selves without compromising their beliefs.
I have designed unique ways to show people the love of God through sex Ed and intimacy coaching. I speak, teach, facilitate and train around topics under the umbrella of Intimacy. My heart for Black people of faith is infused in everything I do, even if the platform isn’t faith-based. I’m churchy and I can’t hide it, but I’m not shoving Jesus down anyone’s throat if that makes sense.
My signature workshop Daring Discussions is a Sex& Relationships Game night. Where we play classic game night games with a SEXucational twist. I have found this method to be successful in facilitating these daring discussions about intimacy, sex, sexuality, and relationships in typically conservative spaces (like schools and churches)
My right-hand woman through all of this is my vulva puppet, Veronica the Vulva (you can check her out here @veronicathevulva on IG). I literally never leave home without her. She is a gold and leopard print anatomically correct Vulva puppet. She is one of my most impactful teaching tools and low key to my best friend. Veronica and I travel the country educating and empowering women to love their bodies from the crowns of their heads to the soles of their feet, Vulva and all.
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
It has not been a smooth road but God has indeed moved. Which is why I am so confident that this is what I’m supposed to be doing. The work I’ve been able to do and the opportunities I’ve been afforded in just four short years is just amazing.
But working in the intersection of sexuality and faith is not for the faint of heart. You have the sexology field telling me I’m too “vanilla” and my message of faith is oppressive. Then you have some people of faith of feel like my message doesn’t honor God. Each time I approach a podium, pulpit or classroom, I can tell which ones are there waiting for me to show and prove whose side I am on.
As a Christian Sexologist, My biggest struggle in the beginning was figuring out, am I Supposed to give the sexology community God, or give the body of believers Sex… I soon realized it was neither and it was both. I don’t have anything to prove to anyone. A really good friend and colleague of mine told me to “find my people and talk to them”. I’ve been doing that ever since. I’m not straddling the fence anymore. Those looking for what I have to say know what I’m about from both communities
Please tell us about The Intimacy Firm.
I and the founder and CEO of The Intimacy Firm.
I am Christian Sexologist. I specialize in customizing Daring Discussions on the intersecting subjects of sexuality and faith necessary to helps folks reconcile the two.
I am known for my Straight shooting, creativity, cleverness and Sense of humor and fusing all of that together with a fresh take on faith-based sexuality education and intimacy coaching. And of course, I’m known for being Veronica’s friend, low key folks no her more than me.
I am proud of everything honestly, but right now what I am most excited about is My Vulva & Me. I created a webseries called My Vulva & Me: A storytelling series for, by, and about black women and we did just that. Season 1 was six episodes with black women from different walks of like being centered and telling our stories, lessons learned and laments like only we can. With this success of the series, My Vulva & Me is now coming to print (and ebook) as an Anthology again for by and about black women. Like literally, only black women have touched this from the creation to the contributing authors to editing and publishing ALL BLACK WOMEN. It’s set to release in November 2020 and I am literally over the moon about it.
I would say my personality, creativity and heart for God and his people is what sets me apart.
Do you look back particularly fondly on any memories from childhood?
I don’t remember the details… but I have a picture of me in crocheted Shirley temple curls, a white turtle neck, black jeans, black patent leather flats with yellow ruffled socks and a leather 8 Ball jacket… my smile was as wide as my fave… I know we were at the movies and I assume it was Easter because my mom was ridiculous about our after church Easter attire. But I used to always look at that picture fondly. That age was right before I went to boarding school, it was a good time.
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