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Meet Alexandra Kot of CosLifeHAQ

Today we’d like to introduce you to Alexandra Kot.

Thanks for sharing your story with us Alexandra. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there.
Since the LA area’s really what shoved me on the path of both cosplaying and now podcasting, I should probably start with what brought me here. I’m actually originally born and bred in the beautiful state of North Carolina. Of course, since my parents are both from the Pittsburgh area, I’m not as Southern sounding as folks assume I should sound, among other stereotypes.

Regardless, I grew up wanting to be a paleontologist, which is why I have a degree in geology. I also graduated right after the downturn, which is why I went back to school for an engineering degree. And that’s what eventually got me here to Southern California.

All of these personal facets do tend to show up in the podcast.

Like most new endeavors that I’ve taken on in the past, I just cannonballed into cosplaying after a rather ugly and emotionally draining time in my life. My first convention was Wondercon 2018 and I knew absolutely no one attending, but I went and cosplayed all three days. I go into more detail on that day in the first episode of the podcast.

I was hooked you could say, and it’s definitely a hobby that one can definitely become heavily invested in for a whole host of reasons, some simple and some complicated. As I became part of the cosplay community or the cosmunity, I experienced just how deep and multi-faceted it continues to grow.

As a new cosplayer, there were tons of questions I wanted to ask, and I found that plenty of others had experienced many of the same frustrations and issues as well. Gradually, through both positive and negative experiences within the cosmunity, the idea of developing a podcast about both cosplay and life topics to try and create a more positive and welcoming environment grew over time, like a video game quest. I want it to not just affect the cosplay community itself, but to hopefully start conversations about topics that we should be talking about more on a grander scale. I want to degrade ignorance through spreading knowledge in a safe space.

I’m aware it’s a lofty goal, but that’s where I’m at now. Realistic optimism.

Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
There’s always a bit of a learning curve with new ventures, and I’m absolutely still learning when it comes to cosplay. There have been the little struggles with costumes and makeup, but the ones that always hit me the hardest are interpersonal challenges. I’m not going to drop any details or drag anyone through the mud, that’s not my style, but I will say that those challenges solidified the value of honesty and communication within any relationship.

In the end though, personal rough patches are often triggers for growth or innovation, and those experiences made me want to create a space to share community knowledge with others before interpersonal problems stemming from cosplaying developed in their own lives. What can I say, I’m an engineer; I like to fix things.

The podcast with Temple of Geek, is still very new, as in we should be dropping the first episode in October, but I’m sure there will be challenges. It’s a part of life.

CosLifeHAQ – what should we know? What do you do best? What sets you apart from the competition?
CosLifeHAQ is a podcast about Cosplay & Life. The HAQ part is a play on the FAQ acronym – Honestly Asked Questions instead of Frequently Asked Questions. Given that I’m still a very new entity in the cosmunity, I find myself still always asking questions.

It’s entirely a passion project. The CosLife HAQ podcast aims to start the conversations about not just the simple questions that arise when one starts getting into cosplay, but the often sensitive and/or controversial topics through the perspective of a newbie cosplayer. The Goal being to not only create a more positive and welcoming atmosphere within the cosplay and geek community but to provide listeners with perspectives and tools to grow themselves in life as well.

I am known for being a Chatty Cathy with a good heart and lots of questions, which lends itself interestingly to recording a podcast I’ve learned.

Honestly, I’m just proud to have even started a podcast. It’s a lot of work and I’m very thankful for Monica, my producer, and Temple of Geek for taking me on and supporting this project. I get to talk about important issues that will hopefully have a positive impact on a community that I love with some amazing people.

What is “success” or “successful” for you?
I want to be proud of the episodes that I put out, and I want both myself and my guests to have fun. That’s basically it.

Obviously, the more visibility that this has the more people we’re likely to reach and maybe impact, but I’ve learned that getting obsessing about social media metrics beyond a base guidance isn’t healthy for me. If I positively affect one person with this podcast, I’ll consider it a success.

Contact Info:

  • Website: coming soon to Temple of Geek (
  • Email:
  • Instagram: CosLifeHAQ

Image Credit:
All Rogue, Billy Butcher, and fashion studio shots by Chris Ly – IG @thenerdlys; Scar Disney bound and Gaston shots are shot by Russel Sturtevant – IG @pointblankshot_photography; Lady Khal Drogo shot by Laura Munley – IG @lmshoots; Gaston jacket & corset as well as Rogue bunny suit costume made by Aubrey Vigil – IG @onceuponanelephantdesigns; Belle is Aubrey Vigil – IG @notahepburn and Thor is Jax – IG @jax_cosplay. Cosplays made by them.

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