Today we’d like to introduce you to Geena Lovato.
Hi Geena, can you start by introducing yourself? We’d love to learn more about how you got to where you are today?
It wasn’t ever my dream to become any sort of coach. I have always been attracted to self-development and can’t keep myself from buying self-help books anytime I step into a book store. I’ve always been on a little neurotic- I’ve struggled with anxiety and been in therapy for years. When I was 24, I got sober off of alcohol and started having some really transformational experiences. I was learning how to live soberly. My anxiety and depression lessened, but even though other areas of my life were getting better, my romantic relationships were still really unhealthy.
I came to a realization that I was the common denominator in all my relationships and that there must be something that I was doing wrong. I came across a book called “Facing Love Addiction” by Pia Melody and realized that I had a lot of characteristics that she was describing as “love addiction.” When I reflected on my life, I started to see that these patterns I had started at a very young age, but I thought my obsessive thinking was normal. I thought everyone was boy-crazy like me. I thought it was normal to feel like you were “going to die” if you didn’t end up in a relationship with the person you liked.
I started talking to my therapist about love addiction and the unhealthy relationship I was in, but I wasn’t really able to become more secure or fix the problems in my relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I think everyone should do therapy! I’m STILL in therapy. But I got to a point where I was so desperate for help that I decided to hire a coach.
I heard a dating & relationship coach speaking about her experience with anxious attachment style and it resonated so deeply with me that I was sure she would be able to help me. I told her about my current situation as well as my past relationships. She helped me to see my thoughts and behaviors in a whole new light. She helped me change my mindset around what a healthy relationship looked like. I had no idea what a healthy relationship was or how to find one when I first started working with her. It was a long road, but the best decision of my life.
Three years later, my whole life had changed. I found a healthy partner and all of my friends were calling me for dating and relationship advice. I started to think to myself, you know what? I’m good at this. I have had a huge transformation and the people that are closest to me can see it. They rely on me to help them find their self-love in those trying moments. I then saw coaching as a profession that would fulfill my desire to help others have a new experience in dating and romantic relationships. I really believe that the reason that coach was able to help me was because she had been through what I had been through. Now, I get to help people that are struggling because I have been there.
Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?
I am fortunate that my coaching career has unfolded with relative ease. There’s definitely been some bumps along the way. I got really lucky I’ve done well on social media. A big part of my coaching business is making content on Tiktok and Instagram. Social media has its pros and cons for me. It has connected me with so many amazing, like-minded people. It has allowed me to transition into being a full-time coach with very little financial worry. The downsides have been allowing myself to be vulnerable to strangers on the internet that may not resonate with the content I have to share and express their feelings about it aggressively. I am empathic and very sensitive so I struggle to not take comments personally sometimes. I have to take a lot of breaks and check-in with how I’m feeling before reading or responding to comments. As far as one on one coaching clients, everyone has been so amazing and I feel so lucky to be able to do what I do.
Thanks – so what else should our readers know about The Love Addict Coaching?
I tailor my coaching specifically to what stage my clients are at in their process. Coaching for a client who is dating is going to be different than coaching for someone who is trying to save their relationship. Regardless of where you’re at, self-love and security are the number one priorities.
I specialize in helping people who believe they have an insecure attachment style move towards a more securely attached mindset. I talk a lot about anxious attachment and share my personal experiences with love addiction if I think someone has crossed that invisible line.
What sets me apart from others is that I really focus on helping people come to their own conclusions. I’m not going to tell you who you should or shouldn’t be with. I’m going to help you see for yourself what the best option for you is. I offer a gentle, non-judgmental, supportive approach.
I offer a lot of options when it comes to working on love addiction, anxious attachment, and shifting relationships towards healthiness. I offer monthly packages for 1:1 sessions, a drop-in coaching option, a recurring Healthy Relationship Workshop, as well as my Mindful Dating online course.
Alright so before we go can you talk to us a bit about how people can work with you, collaborate with you or support you?
Follow me on social media! It’s free and I offer A LOT of mindset work through my content. I am @Theloveaddictcoach on all platforms. If you want to work with me personally, reach out to me on my website and I can help you find the most effective option for you.
- Email: email@example.com
- Website: www.theloveaddict.online
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/theloveaddictcoach
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnCQ7gWhUoaUP0W2WP4O61A
- Other: www.tiktok.com/@theloveaddictcoach
Photography by Michel Dufelmeier