Today we’d like to introduce you to Hannah Spanke.
Hi Hannah, so excited to have you on the platform. So before we get into questions about your work-life, maybe you can bring our readers up to speed on your story and how you got to where you are today?
I could easily pick a place in my adulthood to begin this story, but really it started long before that. I have always been very intrigued by sex, relationships, sensuality, communication, and personal growth. This looked like being “boy-crazy” really young, striving for the next challenge always through high school & college, and then stepping into the adult entertainment world at a wise 17 years old. I dabbled in the world of sex work through stripping, escorting, porn, and probably anything else you might think of too, for the next seven years. Throughout those years of sex work and telling myself how great of a job I was doing by calling all my own shots, I got to a point where I could no longer deny the fact that what I was doing was NOT a long game and my soul was not happy. Cue the countless entrepreneurial adventures from there, including permanent makeup and real estate, I stumbled across a coaching seminar in 2019 and it set me on the course I am still on today. I didn’t even know coaching was an option so I was BLOWN AWAY sitting in a room full of 100s of people who made full-time livings and then some coaching the most random things like day-trading in Spanish or cultivating spirituality as a stay at home mom. I knew my expertise without a doubt was in the relationship category and I have spent the last two years exploring a few different expressions of that. First, working with divorced men over 40 on healing & improving their dating game, then I added working with women specifically on confidence, self-love and sexuality so they could be matches for the kind of love they want most, and now couples who want to repair, enrich and deepen their relationship with an interest in personal growth. My business world keeps expanding and shifting and I’m loving every second.
We all face challenges, but looking back would you describe it as a relatively smooth road?
NOT. AT. ALL. The biggest struggle of all has been 100% cutting ties from sex work to fully embody myself and my work as a relationship coach. There was a major comfort zone I had built around being able to make a certain amount of money in a very short amount of time doing a specific set of things that I knew how to do very well. In all honesty, my life was way too ‘easy’ and that made simple things feel really hard. I’ve struggled with not knowing who I wanted to work with, not feeling confident that I could be paid for my expertise, questioning if what I’m doing is ‘good enough’ to put into the world, etc etc etc. The one thing I have NOT struggled with however is knowing that this is what I’m here to do.
Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your business?
I am a relationship and sex coach for men, women & couples and what I specialize in is helping people break the status quo of mediocre relationships, mediocre sex lives, and mediocre self-esteem. I specialize in lighting the fire in people by seeing them deeply, leading them through the shadows of their past that may still be running the show now, such as old beliefs like ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘everyone cheats on me’, and helping couples rekindle and transform their connection through empathy, and I do it in a way that incorporates conscious sexuality & pleasure as a pathway to embodying your most incredible self. What sets me apart from others is my nitty-gritty background of 7+ years in sex work which has given me lifetimes of wisdom regarding trauma & self-acceptance, paired with an obsession with learning to facilitate transformation for myself first and then others so I actually DO what I teach, and how I’m able to deliver that all in a way that attunes to the individual, not treating them as a one-size-fits-all. I am most proud brand-wise of my give-no-fucks-taboo ability to speak on the most delicate things like someone’s insecurity around their vagina or the secret desire to sleep with a guy so he likes you more, and I can do it in a way that is digestible & relatable to people – shocking, maybe, but relatable. My current offers that I am the most excited about are my women’s program called Irresistible Woman Blueprint where I walk women through their very own cinderella-glow-up both in & out of their love lives, and Relationship Mastery Program which is my offer for couples who desire to repair and/or improve their relationship in a drastic way (and most likely haven’t gotten very far with traditional therapy). My offers are things where most people who enroll in them have done traditional therapy first, and then they tell me how grateful they are they found my coaching later because it has accelerated what they were able to accomplish and grow through in a matter of weeks like they could’ve only dreamed of achieving in years of therapy.
If you had to, what characteristic of yours would you give the most credit to?
Devotion. The quality of devotion to myself, to my mission, to my message, to my correctness, to my leadership, to my clients, to the essence of my work, to money, to growth, to my love, to everything. Some might also use the word commitment, but that sounds like more of a mental choice to me… devotion feels like a response to something already tattooed on your soul.
- Email: email@example.com
- Website: www.hannahspanke.com
- Instagram: @hannahspanke