Today we’d like to introduce you to Tyler Alexis.
Tyler, please share your story with us. How did you get to where you are today?
My mom always says I “was singing in my crib before I could speak.” That basically sums it up. Music is my lifeblood, my passion, my friend, my enemy, my therapist, my motivator… my everything.
Growing up as a child of divorce who was also struggling with a learning disability, I often found it incredibly difficult to express the complex emotions that I was experiencing. I never felt like I fit in. I struggled a lot with depression and poor self-image. Worst of all, I learned at a young age not to trust anyone, because often times my words were used against me, or against my parents during custody battles. So, I internalized A LOT of what I was going through.
Music helped me to escape. It helped me drown out the negative thoughts. It comforted me. Often times, it reminded me that I wasn’t alone with my feelings and it gave me a way to express my emotions in a healthy way.
However, making music my career was not an easy decision. As an LA native, pursuing a music career is the kind of cliche everyone rolls their eyes at. However, after making plenty of excuses, I finally decided to fully dive in. It’s been an amazing ride ever since. The more I take on, the more I realize there was never really any other path for me.
With music, my greatest desire is to encourage others to be strong and to persevere through their own hardships. I want people to feel comfortable being themselves and to know that it’s ok to be weird and unique and different. There is no cookie cutter way to go through this life and you should never feel inadequate because of your imperfections. If you don’t fit the mold, you were meant to create your own.
Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
HA! To be fair, I have honestly been surprised by the number of doors that have opened purely because I’ve knocked on them. However, this does not mean that the road has been easy. Far from it.
There are tons of societal pressures and internal pressures that get in my head. I struggle a lot with my ADHD. Sometimes, it can take me several hours just to compose one email. I constantly feel like I’m at war with my brain to focus and get things done. Over the years, I’ve learned how to cope without medication, but sometimes it just gets the better of me.
I’ve learned that “micro-goals are your friend!” If a task seems too big, it’s difficult to motivate myself to even start. So, I break it up into smaller, more manageable tasks. Often times, the hardest part is just getting myself to sit down and start. Oh, and I have a MILLION checklists (seriously, I do).
I also struggle a lot with negative self-chatter. It is constant and can be quite debilitating on some days. Doubt creeps into my mind like a toxic friend and I’ve had to learn ways to trick myself into getting things done regardless. I used to send messages out before I went to bed, starting conversations with people about projects or questions I had because I knew if I waited until the morning, I would talk myself out of it. I am a classic over-thinker, so I had to “self-sabotage” myself by sending those emails when I was too tired to overthink.
My advice to women? BE YOUR UNABATED STRONG, GORGEOUS SELF! I have been so blessed to be surrounded by such amazing, strong and beautiful women in my adult life. They have taught me that MY OPINION MATTERS. So, lovely ladies, YOUR OPINION MATTERS. Your feelings are VALID. You have the right to say NO. Don’t let ANYONE gaslight you into feeling ridiculous for how you feel. However, with that, open your eyes and listen. Be open to opportunities for growth. Self-reflect. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Don’t let negative people steal your sunshine. If someone is trying to tear you down, run the opposite way. Surround yourself with beautiful, confident, strong women who are pursuing their dreams and who are going to hold you accountable. Be the best YOU that you can be. You are strong enough. You are enough. Always.
Please tell us more about your work, what you are currently focused on and most proud of.
I am a singer/songwriter and I am known for my powerful melodies and veracious lyrics. I am currently working on my next single, “Neglected,” which should be out by summer! When I’m not creating/performing music, I work part-time at a distillery and also as an assistant to students in special education.
As a songwriter, I am most proud when fans share with me how they’ve been able to connect with my songs and lyrics. My hope is always that my music is able to make people feel comforted or understood, the same way music made me feel growing up. I also love how my music has brought people together and I love seeing friendships develop between fans; it warms my heart. I also relish in being able to facilitate a space where my fans can escape the outside world, even just for a moment. It is a truly special experience for me.
I think there are a lot of voices in the world telling us that we are not enough or that we need to fit into a certain mold. The weight of all those expectations can be crushing and can often make us feel isolated by our “flaws” and “imperfections.” My hope is to remind people that they are loved and accepted for who they are. I’m here to tell them it’s okay to be themselves.
It would be great to hear about any apps, books, podcasts or other resources that you’ve used and would recommend to others.
I spend a lot of time driving, so I like to balance input from music and business podcasts. I think there is a lot to be learned and definitely a ton of crossover. Although, as far as recommendations, I don’t really have anything I listen to consistently. Most of my reading is constant research into various topics. When questions come up, I turn to the internet.
- You can get my single “I Miss You Tonight” on iTunes and CDBaby for only $1!
- New Single Coming Out Soon!
- Website: TylerAlexisMusic.com
- Email: email@example.com
- Instagram: https://instagram.com/tyleralexismusic
- Facebook: https://facebook.com/TylerAlexisMusic
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/Tyler_Alexis_
- Other: https://youtube.com/TylerAlexis
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