Today we’d like to introduce you to Nicole Bowman.
Nicole, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
I wish there were a simple answer or a straight path but like most things, in life my journey was peppered with so many things. However, I can say that my love for words and the desire to understand the human experience has been consistent companions. Eventually, privilege and circumstance granted me the opportunity to go back to school, earning my undergrad in Literature; ever the goal chaser, I was planning our wedding, crushing units every semester and I was growing a human. Studying Literature solidified my passion and strength in writing, which partnered well with the endless amounts of reading, adding to my empathy and compassion for the human experience. I eventually went back to school because ever the faithful learner I wanted to study education, so I could share and inspire future learners. Grad school was challenging as I was growing our second human, still crushing units but also earning a credential– we survived.
Flash forward to life with these little humans, we made the decisions that I would stay home for a bit– enter the privilege and opportunity to pursue loftier dreams and goals. I felt a strong desire to influence the motherhood community, bringing a raw honesty– not honesty to elicit followers, not showcasing just the rough parts or projecting a pristine motherhood, but just my truth. I am a happy mother. I am a happy wife. I accept the peaks and valleys of motherhood. In the journey to share my truth and inspire other mothers to live their truth, I was met with another challenge– a life-changing family circumstance, which pushed me to follow further goals that naturally circled around writing: poetry. I share the darker crevices of my thoughts because they all make me the person and perhaps, more importantly, the mother I am and that is what makes the human experience universal, relevant, and why I share.
Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
Honestly, the struggles were really coming from within; I didn’t want to let any of the balls I was juggling to drop. I worked myself to exhaustion to keep up my standards and the standards I thought those around me expected. As women, and especially as mothers, we are expected to manage so many things and manage them well– anything less and we leave ourselves exposed to criticism from ourselves and others. The stress, anxiety, isolation, and depression can be palpable and is amplified when we lose sight of what we really want, or what we can really handle or want to handle. As I progress in motherhood, life, and my own healing my advice for other women, other moms is to be authentic, even if it is not favorable to others. Being authentic sets you free, free to reach your goals and dreams.
We’d love to hear more about your work.
My work… my work is in its infancy and shifts as I see necessary, according to my life. Ultimately, I am a writer, a pen-wielder of truth– my own truth. I blog about all things involved in motherhood: sex, drugs (epidurals), and bullshit. I create content based on moments in my motherhood that are funny, hard, uplifting, or frankly just really real, calling this thatmom.ment. I write poetry as a cathartic experience, which touches others, helping them to discover their truths. I lend my skills to help others speak their truth, writing their stories, polishing their existing words, or creating content that resonates with the soul of their business.
Lest I sound like I have been set on repeat, I stand apart from others because I am genuinely me– with little time for the people that do not like me. I am proud that I have found my voice and I use my voice to encourage other women to let go of the preconceived notions of what they should be doing or should be thinking and just do what feels right for them and their family– be you.
What do you feel are the biggest barriers today to female leadership, in your industry or generally?
Generally speaking, the biggest barrier in female leadership is expecting there to be roadblocks. I believe in the power of the expectations we set for ourselves but also for others– do not put into the universe that there will be an issue in obtaining or maintaining a role of leadership. Have a high self-efficacy will ooze from you and all others will take notice; of course, I have faced my share of sexism and double standards in previous careers but I feel the workaround is to handle situations with authenticity, stand up and be yourself, people will take notice, change will occur, and continue to occur.
- Website: thewordcraft.com
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stories/thatmom.ment/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bowmoments/
April Trettel (photo of me on the computer)