Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
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Yoselin Pearce | Mental Health and Wellness Writer
Know that you’re 100% capable, just like everyone else. While the challenge may seem daunting, if you really want to make it happen, you can and you will. And if for some reason it doesn’t, know that three new doors just opened because of your efforts… you did well.
Chanel Hurlin | Cape Town girl living in Los Angeles, TV Host, doggie obsessed, big dreamer
Just have faith – There’s nothing more powerful than your mind and what you believe will eventually become your reality… both the good and the bad. How amazing is that? Challenges can be empowering, we all face them and it wouldn’t be “life” without them, so embrace the challenge and trust that it’s happening for a reason. The outcome of the challenge lies in your hands, and that should put you at ease – don’t underestimate yourself and your power to create the life you want.
Trista Tripp | Influencer, Partner of Thread Maiden, Partner of Monarchy Media
I would say to just take it one step at a time and keep your eye on the goal. Remember you are powerful and you can do anything you put your mind to. Keep a positive mind set and refuse to give up. Ive had more set backs than I can count but what sets me apart is that I refuse to give up. I don’t care how hard things get. I don’t stop until I have reached my goal. And when something feels insurmountable I add 10 things to my plate and all the sudden that mountain looks more like a baby hill.
Cindy Dinh | College Student & Model
You can’t skip chapters, that’s not how life works. You have to read every line, meet every character. You won’t enjoy all of it. Hell, some chapters will make you cry for weeks. You will read things you don’t want to read, you will have moments when you don’t want the pages to end. But you have to keep going. Stories keep the world revolving. Live yours, don’t miss out.” -Courtney Peppernell. This quote is from one of my favorite poetry books called Pillow Thoughts. I truly fell in love with this quote because it made me realize that things in life do happen for a reason. The people we meet, the experiences we have are all meant to happen to either teach us a lesson or to help us grow. No matter how hard life gets, never lose that hope to keep going. I’ve personally been through a lot as an individual and the thing that kept me going was hope. Always have a positive mindset and never let anything or anyone stop you from living a greater life. There is so much in life to look forward to, it just takes time to heal, grow, improve and thrive.
Yaroslava Kharchenko | ballerina, actor, model, creative director, aspiring TV host
We all know what we say about a meaningful photo – a photo is worth a thousand words, well this one is worth a thousand feelings. This would be my last photo shoot of my two year hiatus from modeling and acting. My mother had gotten seriously sick with an autoimmune disease which attacked her liver. And in this photograph all the emotions that I was feeling from getting the news are there. My mother and I were very close, she was my everything. I took care of her for the year that she was fighting this awful disease, we were determined to beat it despite the odds. I had to be strong and determined to help her, although my heart was breaking. We did not succeed and as I say this in tears she did not make it. So to answer your question, whats the best advice I have for someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable? I would like to say that when life knocks you down over and over again which has been my case for the last 8 years worst years of my life, is that you need to find the power to get up and keep going overtime but every time, take your time doing it as long as you do it, every human overcomes troublesome and heartbreaking tragedies at their own pace. My mother taught me that. My true hero, my superwoman. So as I endure these next years of my life I plan to be the boss woman she taught me to be and I will not let her down. I am strong and I WILL get up every time life knocks me down. So I would like to dedicate this women day to my mother Liudmila Beskova my idol, superwoman and angel that she is to me. NEVER give up hope, kindness, and the lioness in you.
Hetty Diep | Fat-loss Consultant at Tenoverall Fitness and Nutrition
Ask yourself why you decided to face your challenge in the first place and break it down into 5-10 steps over a realistic period of time. When we break things down, it automatically becomes easier for our brain to process and then it is not as scary and out-of-reach as it seemed to be.
Stephanie Watson | behaviour change specialist and personal trainer
Break it down! Baby steps are much less overwhelming. Worry about one step at a time.
Amelia Skye | Fitness Influencer and Singer
Every challenge is achievable with the right energy around you and the right mind set. People fear failure which often times leads to not achieving something they want to achieve. What they have to remember is that every successful person has failed multiple times before they reached their success so when you face a challenge that means you are on the road to success and you have to do everything in your power to overcome that challenge as it will build you up and make you stronger. So the best advice that I have for someone who is faced with a challenge is to embrace it, it’s meant to be there and it’s all a part of your beautiful journey…KEEP GOING!
Amal Dalmar | Director, Writer, Content Creator
Give yourself the space to feel whatever you are feeling. Allow yourself to be vulnerable with those you trust and to heal. Go slow and take one day at a time.
Simone Silva | actress, volunteer, soldier
When facing a challenge, it’s important to believe that you are strong enough to take on anything. Never doubt your own ability to kick ass. You may end surprising yourself, so don’t be afraid to be your own hero.
Shanelle Jarrel | Travel Blogger & Entertainment Marketer
It’s all about baby steps – take it piece by piece. Sometimes it’s hard not to look at the big picture and want to champion it all at once. Humans are impatient creatures after all. Instead though, plan out all the necessary steps that will lead to the desired outcome. Write them down, if possible, so you don’t forget or try to change your mind during the process. Setting these smaller goals will help you feel more accomplished and stimulated as you check each one off the list. And always remember to enjoy the process – you learn and grow from every right and wrong choice you make along the way.
Caroline | Digital Marketing Specialist & Writer
Reassess the situation from a different perspective. Oftentimes, I find that thinking of all possible outcomes leads to a better solution. Always stay open to different ideas and seek advice from others. I know people may shy away from help because it seems “weak,” but being strong is admitting you need guidance. And finally, take a step back and be patient with yourself. Every challenge presents a new lesson. Once you change your mentality about the issue at hand, you start to view it as an experience to grow from!
Stella | Travel Blogger & Writer
My advice for someone facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to not be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to struggle alone, and you shouldn’t. Reach out to someone you know cares about you, whether it is a family member or a friend. Talking things through with them may help you to discover solutions to the problem and most definitely will help to ease your mind.
Alexis Casso | Actress and Pilates Instructor
The best advice I can give to someone who is facing a challenge he or she feels is insurmountable is to keep going, even if it’s super hard and you want to give up. You have to keep going, even when you feel you can’t. Everyone has off days, and that’s OK. I think knowing there are ebbs and flows is good and accepting them for what they are is helpful. Surrounding yourself with loved ones, whether friends or family, is so important. Having a support system that is full of love and positivity makes the biggest difference. Love can save you! Any kind of love! I also know that even if you fall, you can and will get up again. You are powerful, and can do anything you set your mind to. We are our own best advocates , and believing in yourself is so important. You are enough. You are powerful. You got this.
Gretchen McGarry | Globe Trotter & Bon Vivant
I try not to focus on the challenges because that takes my eyes off the goal. Patience and perseverance are two guiding principles in my life. I trust in the timing of things and have faith that consistent effort over time will yield results. When I need motivation, I remind myself of a favorite Nelson Mandela quote—“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
Elle Salter | School Counselor & Boutique Owner
I wish I could provide you with a guide on how to overcome a situation that is so difficult to fathom. It is not about simply overcoming that challenge but learning how to become resilient so every future challenge you encounter becomes less insurmountable. When I was asked to answer this question, I was also and currently am going through a situation that seems insurmountable. As I mentioned I am a school counselor and lost a student to suicide last week. The following advice is not only advice for you but as well as for myself. So here we go….The best advice I can provide you or anyone who is experiencing a situation that seems insurmountable is quite simple yet probably the most difficult thing, we as humans can do. Forgive yourself. Be Kind to yourself. And most importantly LOVE yourself. I also encourage you to build your support system as we cannot endure these things alone. Surround yourself with positive people that will love on you or positive things you enjoy. These people or things will be the light that will guide your path to healing and becoming triumphant. The last bit of advice I want to share with everyone is to spread kindness and love everywhere you go. YOU can be that light you once needed in a dark situation for someone else. Continue to do these things each day and you will see minor or huge growth as an individual and in your life. What was once insurmountable will become miniscule. Then and only then you will be triumphant. YOU will become RESILIENT.
Calais Renee | Health & Fitness Coach
Whenever I’m faced with a challenge that seems overwhelming, I break it down into small steps or solutions to make it less daunting. I’ll get my notebook and list out all the things I need to do to tackle this challenge. Start with one task at a time and before you know it, you won’t only overcome the challenge, but you’ll be able to look back and see how capable you are of such feat. This will then inspire you to keep going and not let any obstacles stop you from getting what you want out of life. You got this girl.
Jenny | Fitness enthusiasts
I would say the best advice I have for someone who’s facing a challenge they feel insurmountable is to: Separate yourself from the challenge and see it from a different perspective. It has been said that our greatest lessons come from the hardships in our lives. Just because in the very moment we cannot see the lesson taking a positive approach can turn things around.
Tanya Monaghan | Style Influencer and Fashion Editor of an LA based magazine
I am a huge fan of Eckart Tolle who has helped me get through many challenges that have come into my life. When faced with a challenge, the first step I take is to to accept the challenge, the second is to surrender to what it is. You can either use the challenge to awaken you or you can allow it to pull you down into a state of anxiety. The next step is to come up with any action I can take to provide a solution for the challenge that arises and get to it. Sometimes challenges present no active steps or ways for us to better the situation, and in these cases what we always do have is the strength within ourselves to ride the wave and control how we react to them.
Krystal | Mom & LA enthusiast
Never doubt how much personal strength you have. You’d be amazed how obstacles you can over come of you believe in yourself.
Kelly Piliouras | Comedian, Fitness Model, Actress
Picture yourself achieving the ultimate end goal you desire. How do you feel in that moment? Now take that feeling, and translate it into motivation for taking all the small steps it will take to get there. Remember that if you really want it, you are the only one who is going to get it for yourself– no one else. You have the power. It’s up to you to take the plunge or not. Don’t see the “small steps” as something you “have” to do; instead see them as all really enjoyable pieces to a puzzle you’re making for yourself; when you vest yourself in the joy of the process, your work will become authentic and the results will happen organically. Whenever you catch yourself stressing about how to get to the end goal, stop, slow down and center. Life is meant to be enjoyed, so enjoy the process; don’t worry so much about getting to the end goal. When you break up the pieces and achieve each one, a step at a time, you’re already making your way there. Most of the time we spend energy worrying about things that never happen and we forget how much can happen in a short period of time, especially when we put the work in. As Vincent Van Gogh said, “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”
Natasha Kojic | Music Composer for Motion Pictures and Digital Marketing Social Media/Content Creator
A difficult road leads to a beautiful destination, so don’t fear to make a change and face the challenge.
Francesca Murray | Travel Journalist and Influencer
My advice is to take a minute to pause, breathe, and remember your “why.” My faith is what keeps me going and whenever I get down I remember that there is a higher purpose. I love the quote “when you get tired learn to rest, not quit.”
Natalie Anastasia | Lifestyle Blogger & Talent Manager
When I’m facing a challenge that feels insurmountable, I like to break it down into smaller action items. What small steps can I take now that will help get me closer to tackling this issue? It’s easy to get frazzled when we see such a big obstacle ahead of us, but mapping out our next steps gives us clarity and direction moving forward. Don’t forget to breathe, take breaks when needed and lean on your support system! It doesn’t make you weak to ask for help or guidance from people who may know better than you. It makes you smart.
Luciana Freire | creator of YogaSamba, Somatic Yoga Therapist and Integrative Coach
Never give up. Trust your heart and intuition. Breathe. Quiet the mind with meditation and yoga to find center and connection with Self. The answers are all inside waiting to be discovered. We are all meant to shine.
Cassydy Berliner | Content Creator (@cassydy) & Social Media Strategist
Be grateful for the opportunity to overcome it and remember that every great victory begins as a battle.